Just Needed to Vent

Hey Jamie - You’re not alone! This virus has wreaked havoc on a lot of wedding plans. It’s okay to feel sad about today and what it was supposed to be. Who would have thought this would be the case? Keep yourself busy today and try to do something special or fun with your FH to create a new memory of this date — even if it’s just having a nice dinner or watching your favorite movie together. Hang in there! Things will get better ... and just remember, you still get the ultimate prize even if it is a little delayed — marrying your love. 😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for the encouraging words. You are right, I get to marry the Love of my Life. I’ll snuggle up to him this evening when he gets in from work. Thank you❤️

View Quoted Comment You’re very welcome! I’ve had to change my plans too, so get it. I have my moments when I get upset and discouraged too. Encouraging each other helps us get through it. I hope today gets a little easier for you. 😊

I completely feel you. It's been hard wrapping my head around having a tiny wedding with so many important people not able to come and with my family in masks. I keep thinking about how I won't be able to see my parents' reactions during the ceremony because everyone has to be in a mask. The only comforting thing for me is that I'll be married to the love of my life, which makes all of this crap worth it.

View Quoted Comment It’s so frustrating every time I think about it. I’ve had to rearrange everything which was truly hard. I almost threw in the towel a few times and canceled everything all together. My FH talks me off the ledge though..lol. I really wanted everything nice for him. This is his first marriage and my second but he’s never had anything to celebrate him. He never had birthday parties, graduation parties or anything so he was more excited about today than I was. I’m going to try and make the best of it. He’s a wonderful guy and I can’t imagine doing life without him.

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Aw your poor FH--It's so unfair! Luckily it seems like you two are very happy, so here's hoping to a lifetime full of celebrations

You’re totally welcome to vent about your wedding. Your wedding details are important to you and should be heard. It’s so hard to deal with wedding planning as it relates to COVID-19. Keep in mind everything you and your FH truly want and try to convert it to something COVID-19 acceptable. Think about who you really want there. Try to think outside the box. You’re worth it all.

People don’t understand the mental toll postponing a wedding during all this has on a person. We’re in Virginia, already postponed from April and now the governor may change things again for our area. We are here for you! I know it sucks. ❤️

View Quoted Comment I’m in PG County Maryland and the governor just announced that we will be in Phase 2 of re-openings for a while and it makes it so hard to keep a plan in place and thinking there may be another shut down if the numbers rise. Instead of anyone being understanding their only answer when I bring it up is “why don’t you just cancel !” Make me second guess if anyone was really wanting to genuinely celebrate our union. Thanks for listening ❤️. I was losing my mind over here.

I realized after having to seriously change our plans that when we were newly engaged and people said, "do what you want, don't listen to anyone else," what they really meant was, "do what you want, as long as it's exactly the same as what I want." It's hard to talk about this with people we actually know, because they take our covid-related decisions as personal insults, when we obviously would never have chosen to be in this situation.


But there are tons of people who actually DO get it on here, so this is the perfect place to vent!
Also it's really crappy to have to deal with the changes and the uncertainty, but now I'm only two weeks away (from this year's version of our wedding), and I'm probably like 85% excited/happy and only 15% annoyed/sad. So, it gets better!

View Quoted Comment He called me from work today and said “wow babe, this was our day”, needless to say that made me cry, but I got it out and feel a little better. We’re going to have a special dinner tonight when he gets home. I guess I will feel better when November comes just knowing I’m marrying him. I’m glad your day is fastly approaching and you are happy/excited for it. I’m sure it will turn out beautiful and better than you thought ❤️.

Girl I hear you! We cancelled ours in Oct and I feel like even doing a 20 person micro wedding is just a waste of my guests time/money. It's so hard to find a spot for a 30 min ceremony even. I love weddings and everything about them and it just feels like I'm not allowed to have mine.


I feel like everything we had planned my family just shook their head disapprovingly. I said eff it we didn't ask for a cent of help so we can do what we wanted. Now all those fun us details are on hold and even with any location of a microwedding it will still be disappointing to them. If my only option is a family members backyard I will courthouse it.
A toast to stressful times 🥂

I do believe that once November is closer the excitement will return. These are tough times. But we’re all making the best love it, postponements and all. Did the two of you do anything special today? FH and I are planning a weekend getaway to acknowledge our original date (10/10/20). Hope you begin feeling better soon and best wishes for November.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! And he sounds great. I'm sure your excitement will overpower any negative feelings you have as it gets closer. ❤

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. We had a really nice dinner together and went for a nice walk at a park we used to frequent before all this pandemic stuff. It made me a feel a lot better.

I feel your pain I cry everyday on my lunch break with all the uncertainty. I just remain prayerful and I've been trying to refocus on my fiance and our connection. It's also funny how close some of us are I'm in NOVA.

Hey girl, im sorry youre going through this! My more recent posts have been similar, my date was already for 2021 but i have had so much anxiety and depression since covid. I feel like i am the only one taking things seriously as well, fh doesnt even hype me up or help with any of the planning and my family has been full of negative opinions on things that dont effect them and im getting frustrated with it and everything else. Since coming on here several timeS to vent, alot of the girls on here are super supportive and i was finally able to back off the constant stressing over planning. I take a day or so out of the weeks now and just dont even think about it, and many girls have felt unenthusiastic too regarding making changes or just unkown of the future. Many girls have said though the closer to the date they feel differently and began to feel excited again. I think once the current stress settles a bit for you, you will be excited again especially as nov approaches. Your day will be beautiful, it becomes unclear at times while planning but as some girls thankfully reminded me.. this day is about you and fh , your marriage, not the huge celebration. Of course we all have our vision of the day and who doesnt love a party ! But the day is for you two to come together as one and that’s beautiful. The party is a bonus. We are here for you, relax and do something for you today! Your wedding will be beautiful no matter what❤️

I understand completely. I just moved to Alabama. I have no family close by. No friends here. Im doing most of the planning alone. My parents are gone. My brides are in Ohio, (except 1 ,she's in New York)All of my siblings are in OHIO (except 1 ,he's in Barcelona,Spain) I have no biological children. I am doing centerpieces, bouquets, boutineers,most of the food, Alone . This is our 3rd and last date change, AND I am a First time bride at 49 and I turn 50 in November.

View Quoted Comment Awww Danyel, I’m sorry. I understand. I’ve been crying on and off and didn’t realize just how much this pandemic was taking a tolls on me. After a long talk with the FH, he put a few things back into perspective for me. It’s still hard but looking forward to it getting better. I hope it gets better for you too❤️.

View Quoted Comment Thank you sooo much Kelly. I took my hands off planning for a bit and I’m going to just go with the flow. I’ve made so many changes that it feels more like an elopement than a tiny wedding. But this too shall pass and we’ll both feel better ❤️