Just need to rant

My wedding is in 42 days, sunrise on September 12th. Our date has been set pretty much since we got engaged February 2019. We decided on sunrise the end of last year, I don’t remember exactly when, maybe late December.
I am talking to one of my MOHs earlier and tell her I’m planning on having her and my cousin (second MOH) carry lanterns instead of bouquets and she says “lanterns would be kind of weird mid-day when it’s bright out, that’s more sunset or sunrise.” I couldn’t even respond. I had no words. I get that my wedding is not her top priority and that she has other things going on in her life too, but couple this with the fact that she still hasn’t even ordered a dress and she’s known what color she needs to get for at least seven months... I just feel like she doesn’t even want to be part of this.
Both of my MOHs have apparently assumed that the other is doing all of the planning with me so neither has done anything unless I specifically ask them to and even then it depends. I know they are only required to get the right dress and stand up there with me on the day, but she doesn’t even know what time she’s supposed to be there. I’m the type of person that goes above and beyond for those that I love, and I don’t even feel like my best friend or cousin (who I grew up with and is more like a sister) can even be bothered to do the bare minimum- ie buy a dress.Rant over, I just needed to get that off my chest. FH uses this as proof we should have just eloped all along, and lately I feel like he’s right.