Just lost a bridesmaid

She has some flexibility. She felt that it was too much driving for her and that it was a waste of gas. I offered to pay for her one way rental, offered to drop off my car and many other ways just so that I can save the 3 hours of la rush hour Friday traffic encounter to Vegas and so that I can at least have a nice dinner before going out (they all know how much I live to dine when I'm there). She was mad and told me that I was taking advantage of her. I also paid for gas and our car rental. When we got there during our brunch she asked me to take her to the airport in the middle of my brunch..I was upset,,I felt that it was very inconsiderate to ask me to leave my bridal party for 2 hours just for a sake of a 10 dollar can ride. When she got back to La..I was obligated to drive her car to the airport so she can just drive home.

Everything just went sour from there. She doesn't return my emails or calls or texts..and when she does it's a bit rude. I offered to pay for everyone to get their hair and make up done and she replied to the MOH by saying "I'm not interested". Yesterday, she emails me a link to a website with hypoallergenic earrings so I can buy everyone's earrings from there. This is after all my emails and texts have been ignored. So I responded back saying "I don't care if she just decides to wear her own earrings and with the wedding 3 weeks away, I need to focus on me" and I really can't deal with ordering earrings since I already bought everyone else's and I didn't get one for her since she didn't respond. She wrote a long email and said I was a spoiled self centered bride. She also said that it was rude that I made her cancel her hotel reservations for Vegas when all she was trying to help. With her reservations,,we would gotten 3 little rooms In treasure island..my fiancé's family got us a 3000 square foot penthouse at the venetian for free...It hurts and I am hurt to lose her as a friend over earrings and an hour drive before Vegas. I don't understand...I'm shocked. But oh well

It is sad. Hopefully you two can work things out after the wedding.

You bent over backwards for her and she still threw a tantrum. Nothing you've said sounded spoiled in your behaviour but her's reaks of it.

Good riddance I'd say.

I agree with @FestiveGypsy..... good riddance! You don't need anyone who isn't going to be supportive to you around on your day anyway. If anyone is being spoiled and self centered it is her!

She is the spoiled drama queen, not you! Although I am a 40 yr old first time bride, I never found the right one, She is likely jealous your happy and she is not. Cut your losses, get married and be happy.

She sounds like a nightmare and I'm usually the first person to try and see the other person's side.

I'm the same way Janeen, but it definitely sounds like you dodged a bullet with her. She doesn't sound supportive at all and is being extremely childish. She's not worth it. Better to have happened now rather than later. I can picture her being a nightmare at your wedding!

It's sad falling out with a friend, especially in a time that's so important in your life, but it sounds like you'll be better off without that stress on you. Look at the bright side, now you can focus on yourself like you said and not someone else's drama.

I'm sorry for the drama, but agree with others that a 'friend' like this is no friend! It's very difficult for women in particular to 'move on' from a friendship, as we tend to put great value on a shared history and experiences - but people change, times change, and weddings are often the times when we realize who our lasting friendships really are. This is not someone you need in your life - whatever her issues are, they're hers and hers alone. She sounds like a narcissist, one who sees everything through a lens of how it affects *her* - and that is something that will never change.

My SIL was in a sorority and continued to stay close to a group of girls after graduation. They met frequently for lunches and social events. After my SIL and brother had been together for two years and were engaged, she got an invitation to one of the girl's wedding... the invitation said "SIL and Guest". The girl did not remember my brother's name! It jolted my SIL into rethinking the entire group of friends... she realized most of them talked exclusively about money and about each other, and showed no interest in my SILs own wedding plans other than to use it to talk about their own. She made a difficult decision to end her friendships with all but two of the girls. There was no fall-out, there were no fights... she simply stopped accepting invitations from them, and slowly they stopped contacting her. She's never regretted it.

I feel bad and I was trying salvage it but I guess it's for the better.

Thanks guys...it made me feel better..I'll still give her her gifts..they were all personalized..so it's not like I can do anything with them.