Just feeling down...

Yes. Yes. Yes. I feel this exact way right now, but I also want to have the perfect day and I just hate that all of this is happening right now.

Yes! My FSIL is a negative Nancy, yesterday was not a good day due to her negativity on Easter (Zoom call). I feel like we will be ok in September. I had one of my FH's cousins tell us that she can't support anyone getting married this year due to the virus that was so hurtful. I really like my FH's family, but that for sure made me feel defensive and put a wall up. This entire situation just sucks.

Yeah i think when it comes to weddings, suddenly people think they have an opinion that matters in it. and sometimes it makes you view that person in a new light.

View Quoted Comment Goodness ! Can’t support anyone 🤦🏾‍♀️ That’s very hurtful. And September I would hope and think this would be over, I also feel like ppl should be offering more of a helping hand knowing this added stress is on your wedding

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I totally agree with you. I try to ignore those who don't want to supportive. Most of my immediate family and friends have been super helpful and great about this thing. But some are just so negative. I ended up unfollowing quite a few people on social media.

I know exactly what you mean. We're all just doing our best here and we don't have all the answers. It's so hard because I thought wedding planning was going to be such a blissfully happy time with the only stress being picking a vendor or selecting a place setting. It's turned out to be one of the most stressful times of my life and we just don't know whether the wedding will happen. I was talking to a friend over the weekend and she asked me if I was stressed about the possibility of canceling and I nearly burst into tears because I have been trying so hard not to think about it, but it's a very real possibility. It's not fair for your friends or family to put all of that pressure on you. You're doing your best and you don't know what the world will look like next week or next month. Just keep doing what you're doing.

I know how you feel. I know that everyone is stressed out right now, so I'm just trying to be kind to everyone and let everyone make their own decisions. Thankfully no one has been pushing me about postponing which is nice. This really is a sucky situation we have found ourselves in :-(

Sorry you have had such a hard time with people! Just wanted to post that I have the same wedding date as you and have not made any decisions yet. Do you have anyone who can be supportive to you right now? No one has bugged me (yet) about a decision, but I did confide to my MOH that I was feeling sad about things and she was super supportive and vowed to be on my side no matter what happens. I go between thinking July 25th will go on as planned and thinking it will need to be postponed. I've given myself some time to not make any decisions and will revisit at the beginning of May when hopefully we have a few more directives on gatherings.

Girl! I share the same sentiments ! Same has been happening to me! Just been prayerful and keeping spirit of forgiveness so as to not get weighed down

Exactly what information does she think you will base your decision on? What the birds outside your window are cheeping about in the early morning? Guidance beamed from the planet crazy? Why does it matter when she knows? She committed to the date. The only reason you would cancel is for safety. So it is not as though, if you cancel, she can take a visit to Italy and France, or make other plans that need to be done in advance. When some people panic, they get irrational. They demand irrationally that everyone else start making decisions, when other people may have no more idea than they do. Like children in free fall, they want to feel someone is in control, is making decisions. If that is what it is, it is irrational, but panic responses often are. But it is awful for you for others to clutch you, demand from you what you cannot give, at such a tough time. My father has an old but true story ( I remember) . Of office staff going out to picnic tables by the parking lot , for an end of day administrative meeting on a summer evening. And someone in a dump truck backed up , tipped his load, and let loose gravel burying a small convertible in the lot next door. And everyone turned to Dad, and the other Doctor present, aren't you going to do something? And, You're doctors, can't you do something? I was a part time file clerk as a summer job. And started to laugh, and ask, what do you expect them to do? And except for the office manager who was calling the police, everyone was looking at these two people to do something, make a decision. Show that someone who could protect them ( from gravel 50 feet away ?) was in charge, and they were safe. People are upset, and not really rational . And the best thing might be to deal with it as such, and try to dismiss it from mind. None of this is your fault. No one has given you any info more than anyone else. Be baffled, be frustrated, but try not to let these long time friends get you down. Hang in there!

View Quoted Comment Your a blessing. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for sharing ♥️♥️♥️ And your right ! Going to ignore the panic people are trying to put onto me

Yes, I felt down but in a different way. I felt that many loved ones showed no interest in a wedding or offered to help (with organizing and planning; I didn't need/want financial assistance). I was super lost and lacked knowledge when it came to certain things like dresses, etc. I have never dressed up super nice for anything. I didn't even go to prom. At other weddings that I have been to, I could overhear guests talking negatively about what the couple did for their wedding. Soooo I dealt with it by canceling the wedding completely and my FH and I plan on eloping. No stress, very little money, no help needed and we can do things our way without having to worry about criticism.

View Quoted Comment My first wedding, I really wanted the full wedding and gown and romantic things, though on a definite small scale (75 people) and my FMIL completely destroyed our plans. And we walked away from it, meeting people in Colorado 2 days before we had planned to meet them for a back country hiking trip, our honeymoon. Fast civil ceremony, treated the small group to 2 days at a luxury B and B, that was it. And when we returned home to NH a month later, a big dinner and party for both of our friends, the half who had not scattered to the winds after graduations, and my family only. !!!!! His family. After weeks of tension from FMIL misery, what a relief. So worth doing. We had been planning to pay the whole thing from our earnings. And spent some of it on ourselves , both while away and on our return, instead of saving it all for practical things. A wedding that gives you headaches to plan or even think about, is not worth doing. Follow your hearts. Have a long and happy marriage.

Same here. Bridesmaids are acting so annoying. 1 of them was like “you should don’t worry about your wedding, some people dying out there” 1 of them said “I think this corona virus will be last until 2022” and one of my friend send me a meme said that people who get their wedding postpone or cancel are having more time to rethink about their partner.
It’s make soooo sad that it’s easy for them to talking bad about that while they don’t know how much money and effort I put for this wedding. I really need support and what they did is making me down.

View Quoted Comment Omg. Ppl are so insensitive. I’ve debated throwing my whole bridal party away because of similar comments. I would never say such things to a bride

View Quoted Comment I know right. I’m getting tired of it. I personally won’t have bridal party anymore. I won’t see them until the wedding day because I’m gonna move out of state with my fiancé (because of work) come back only for the wedding day and just be done with it.

I am so sorry for what you are going through, Weddings sometimes bring out the worse in people