Just curious!

I got engaged Dec 2018, and I asked my bridesmaids and he asked his groomsmen the same month. We aren’t getting married until Nov 2020. So it was a long engagement as well. I think if you are confident you know who you want to stand by your side you can ask when you feel confident. I do think it’s nice you are wanting to ask ahead of time since your having a Friday wedding. Ours is a Saturday but all of our bridesmaid/groomsmen took off the Friday before (on their own wishes not mine) to help decorate/set up. Good luck to you though on it all!

I don't think the timeline should change for a Friday wedding compared to a Saturday wedding. All of those things are still done with plenty of advance notice.

I'm doing a Friday wedding, and I did not send things out any earlier than I would have for a Saturday wedding. My sister also did a Friday wedding, and she didn't send things out earlier. Guests that want to be there will find a way to attend. If you send out Save The Dates maybe 6 months ahead of time, that should be plenty of time for people to start planning to take time off work if needed.

Save the dates are the only thing that I would do earlier.

We got engaged July 2019 & decided the date within a couple of days. We loved the date of 4/3/21 & it landed on a Saturday. I’m thinking Saturday is better since our bridal party won’t have to take any time off. Our venue sets up everything so i won’t need them to help with that. Just depends on what kind of venue you get.

My wedding is on a Friday in April 2021. We just mailed out our save the dates. I wanted to make sure guests have plenty of time to take off of work. I won't mail out invitations until probably February.

I'm getting married on a Thursday & its a destination wedding so we sent save the dates a year out to give people plenty of time (8 to 12 months is customary for destination). If the majority of your guests live where your wedding is I wouldn't worry too much about sending save the dates too much earlier than you would normally (about 6 months out). Of course, I'm a planner and always like more notice than less Plus, if your save the date is a magnet people won't lose it and if it has your picture on it your friends/family get to look at your beautiful faces every day until the wedding. Kind of fun!

My one and only advice I would give you, aside from the usual discussing of budget, theme, and guest count with your fiancee, would be to get your engagement shoot done. It's a great and fun way to celebrate your engagement, and a great way to do something wedding related. It gives you the chance to research your photographer for the big day, and there's nothing more fun than to pick out outfits you and your soon to be husband get to wear to the photoshoot.

I especially recommend doing this if you're desperate for something wedding related to do.

If you select a Friday, I don't think you have to move the timeline up at all, but I do think it needs to be clear that it is a Friday. A lot of people assume weddings are on Saturdays, even some vendors, so I would just be super clear about communicating the day to everyone so that there's no mix-ups.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! I just get over excited for everything and I really want to do everything now!! Lol

If you choose a Friday date, I think the only thing that should go out a little early is your save the dates. Typically, they are sent 6-8 months in advance. For a Friday wedding, I think the 8-9 month mark would be fine.

Regardless of which day you choose, I would not ask your bridal party members to be in the wedding until the beginning of 2022. A lot of things can change between now and then and you don’t want to ask someone too soon.