Just a little venting

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Yikes ! sorry that happened. i hope everything with you guys will be ok

Oh No! I’m so sorry. I’m guessing you will probably feel hurt for quite a while and that sucks. I do love the idea of a mother / daughter dance!

It was good of your mother to step in for the dance. That sucks that your dad did that. That's just not right and not the proper way to treat a daughter. I hope you can hug your new spouse and heal

Oh goodness! I am so sorry that you had to deal with that on your special day!

You don't say why you kicked them out of your room, but I'm not surprised after that that your dad looked "tortured."

What loans he takes out and why are none of your business.

View Quoted Comment Since you want to know so bad after not being invited to the party because he was out the whole time he randomly showed up to my hotel room with his gf. They started talking politics and I didn’t want to hear it so I went to my room. As I was in my room I hear his gf yelling at my dad so I came out to see what’s going on. As I sit down his gf picks the conversation up again with my now husband and my dad gets up and screams at my husband. At that point I told him he needs to leave because you’re not going to yell at my husband at my party that you weren’t invited to after your girl screamed at you.

View Quoted Comment & after he brags into my face all the money he took out and the fact I paid for him to even make it to Vegas yea it is my business

I don't want to "know so bad," in fact I didn't even ask. I don't even care. His loans aren't anyone's business except to the person/bank who loaned him money. How would you react if he got in your face about a loan you took out? Sounds like you're angry he took a loan and spent it on someone else.

View Quoted Comment Lol not at all
The part I’m mad about is how he didn’t bother to help his daughter out any type of way and I paid for him to make it to my wedding. To me sounds selfish lol My husband and I paid cash for our 11,000 wedding and I didn’t get nothing but an argument and a woman he tagged along who’s using him.

Thank you so much for defending me 😔 really I was just hurt and wanted to vent to someone who didn’t witness what happened.

These days, his life is with his girlfriend, as much as yours is with FI. If you invite someone on a destination wedding trip, and they come to the ceremony and dinner, their SO should be invited, his girlfriend in this case. And apparently you did not do that. Sorry your husband, his girlfriends, you and dad " got into it" over politics, but this does not sound like more their issue than yours.
And "he took a loan out for "personal use" and basically spent it all on her and gambling, when he knew I had a wedding and a birthday coming up". You chose to pay for him to come to your wedding, Yes? But that has nothing to do with how he spends his income, or any loan. And comes with no obligation that he spend money on his adult daughter's birthday, or wedding. ... This all sounds like a mess. But nothing more his or girlfriend's fault more than you or your FI. You started by not inviting his SO ( not polite to dad) and you seem to resent his doing what he wanted outside the ceremony and dinner , though it was just what any other person would do in Vegas, outside the actual wedding. I think you should just erase the slate. And before you do anything with Dad again, ask yourself what you expect from him, and you. Will you observe usual social manners and invite his then current SO? And make an effort for you and your husband to get along with her and your dad? Right now it does sound distressing, to you and to him. And within a month or two, perhaps you can get in touch, and ask where to go from
here. Clearly there is a tug of family. But it sounds like before any big occasion, you need to get friendly long enough for dinner, and see just what you want from each other, and how to positively get through a single dinner and talk , with everyone on their best manners. No disagreements, no walking out, no yelling. Before you have kids, if you have kids.

View Quoted Comment She was invited and I took the time for her to help her to get to Vegas the week before our wedding simply because my dad asked me to. She was invited otherwise she wouldn’t of been in VEgas. I had to pay for her dinner because I made advance reservations for a dinner she did not show up to. I think you have a misunderstanding of the situation. She chose herself not to show up to any of the events simply because she didn’t want to.