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Super August 2019

Just a lil annoyed

Tina, on May 16, 2019 at 7:42 PM Posted in Planning 0 11

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My day of event coordinator is the event planner at my job.. she does weddings all the time..my honey and I work at the same place and there is No way we can invite ppl from work. I just can't afford it and I'm very private anyways and don't feel like anyone asking why they aren't invited and asking for every detail. I essentially deal with everyone and I'm under a microscope in the first place. Anyways..I get a text from one of the guys saying he can do my wedding cake and cupcakes bc he heard through the grape vine about my wedding.... Really? Sigh. I told her countless times under no uncertain circumstances that l needed my info confidential and that was the most important thing to me bc l don't want ppl to feel excluded and I just don't want everyone in my business. Smh. Sigh..🤮. He asked me not to say anything to her bc she let it slip but the fact he is saying anything to me lets me now that he's going to spread the word. Smh. I'm sure my boss will be calling a meeting about it tomorrow. Ugh!!! That's how the place is. They feel obligated to be a part of our lives in any way. Especially me. Sigh. I'm so annoyed. My fault for hiring her I guess. She's probably just excited but dang.

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Latest activity by Tina, on May 17, 2019 at 8:21 AM

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Soon2BSmith · on May 16, 2019 at 9:17 PM
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Totally understand. I would be upset. There’s nothing you can do except really try to re-enforce the fact that you don’t want her to say anything.
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Tina · on May 16, 2019 at 9:33 PM
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Thanks sis. My honey is making me feel like I'm being petty and like I'm upset over nothing.
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Deborah · on May 16, 2019 at 9:45 PM
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She really should respect your privacy. The cat is out the bag now so prepare to do “damage control” with statements like intimate... family only... small... things that imply coworkers aren’t being invited
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Tina · on May 16, 2019 at 10:02 PM
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Ikr smh. I really didn't want to have this convo
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mrsaj2b · on May 16, 2019 at 10:13 PM
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I hear you. I am very private too. You are not being petty. It's a mess to deal with coworkers who feel entitled to be at your wedding just because you know them. Uh...no. I would for sure tell your planner to keep your wedding under wraps going forward but ,honestly, the male coworker is going to spread the news. So as much as you hate it you do have to throw the buzz words as PP said. This is a small affair for immediate family and long time close friends of the family. Good luck!
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Tina · on May 16, 2019 at 11:59 PM
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Thanks so much. I can hear all the slick comments now. Ugh. Then the Male co worker said he only told one other person. Lovely. So no sense in even telling him mum's the word. He found out some info about my son last year and by the end of the day l had to have a meeting with the owner And my boss. Fun times ahead. I hate big mouth ppl. I'm still upset. Ruined my whole night and my honey and l had an argument over it. I'm so mad at her
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Renee · on May 17, 2019 at 12:44 AM
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So why not fire her?
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D · on May 17, 2019 at 12:52 AM
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Because they all work at the same place. Aaakward.
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Tina · on May 17, 2019 at 2:07 AM
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Ikr. Yep. Can't do that too easily
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Madison · on May 17, 2019 at 2:35 AM
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If it were me and if you can find a different person I would. You should be having fun planning and not worrying about who’s feelings you are hurting. Your wedding is not about the people you work with. Trust me I am having this problem with my family! There’s some people that I don’t want there and I know they will be offered but I tell myself you know what there’s a reason I don’t want them there and no matter that reason it’s reason enough and they can feel how they want to feel. Your coordinator even though she works with you should have kept your information between you two
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Super August 2019
Tina · on May 17, 2019 at 8:21 AM
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I couldn't agree more. Its been my best kept secret up until now for a reason. I don't want to listen to everyone's opinions and input for 90 days. Its going to be like 90 days of torture. Someone else has already told me I should have this type of entrance song and asked where's their invite. . Sigh. I have to now tell a zillion ppl "so sorry family only" and I'm sure they consider themselves family. You know how ppl are. If I could have afforded the extras they would be there. But the 75 ppl game already turned into over 100 and l just can't go one person over that by any means. Sigh. Yea I'm very disappointed but she's the most cost effective person. I'm thinking of just not having a day of coordinator. But l think l would regret that
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