Junior bridesmaid advice/etiquette needed

My step daughter walked in first and stood through the ceremony and she is only 8 maybe i'm not understanding why it would be weird for her to stand up there?

how different is her dress from the other bridesmaids? i can see how that COULD be upsetting to some girls, depending on how different it is - did she have any input?

I'm wondering the same thing, as far as whether I will have them stand in the front. The church is small and I already have 5 bridesmaids. I will probably ask them what they want to do.

Also, I don't know what is the 'correct' order for the processional, but I'm going to have the ring bearer first, followed by 2 jr bridesmaids walking down together, followed by bridesmaids then MOH.

The jr bridesmaids will be 14 and 16, and they are wearing a different style dress but by the same designer and same fabric.

I think I would have her walk down the aisle after the regular bridesmaids and before the maid of honor. Then she would stand between them up at the altar. I am having my two neices, ages 9 and 10 as junior bridesmaids. Their dresses are actually the same as the flower girls, but a different color. I am planning to have them help me with my train so it doesn't drag in the sand on our walk down the aisle. They will stand by my maids of honor. At least that is how I am envisioning it.

We just so happen to have children that are 6 weeks apart in age..so they will be our juniors. However I thought it was general practice for the jr BM to walk alone and stand with the BM's. I've never seen them sit out during the ceremony.

13 is a tough enough stage without making her sit down and be separate from the rest of the wedding party. She's going to feel like you're treating her like a baby and at 13, all they want to do is fit in with the adult world.

Sitting down is okay for a fidgety 4-year old flower girl, but 13 is certainly hold enough to stand up with you for the ceremony.

Thanks everyone! Her dress is the same fabric, same color, but my sisters (my BMs) are wearing strapless dresses and I thought that wouldn't be very age appropriate for a 13 year old so she is wearing a one shoulder dress. @Erin @Kate

My 8-year-old niece is our junior BM. We have one more GM than BM, so she'll probably walk in and out with the last GM (her uncle, so it's not weird) and stand in the front with the other BMs. Her dress is different than the BMs. When she tried on the jr. BM style that matched the BMs, she was uncomfortable and it looked too old for her. We found a dress in the same color and material that's between the flower girl and BMs in style (she had the option to be either position and had a hard time choosing).

Very good point Maureen! You are SO right, she will stand!

@FMrsL - totally agree with you that it's not age appropriate to go strapless and it sounds like she might be over reacting to that aspect.

I still would have her just walk in alone (first or right before your MOH, whichever) and have her stand

Glad you asked this. We will be having my FH's young cousin as a JBM and I think she'll be 10 or 11 at the time of the wedding. I was thinking of having her walk up first so she'll be standing at the front with the other BMs but will be the last one in line away from us at the altar (if that makes sense). I haven't picked a dress yet for her and I'm considering letting her mother just pick it out. I showed the JBM dress version of my BM dresses to my FMIL and she said it looked "too mature". I just honestly don't care what it looks like as long as it goes with the other dresses.

Thank you everyone. Still not sure about the processional order but she will stand with us in the front. And I do feel better about her dress style not being the same.

I was a junior bridesmaid in my aunt's wedding when I was...8 I believe? Almost 20 years ago :p

My dress was the same color as the bridesmaid's dresses but was different in style since I was so young. If I remember correctly I went up after the bridesmaids but before the maid of honor. And I did definitely stand up with the others during the ceremony,

(That was also when we learned I was allergic to pollen...whoops...)