June wedding and Mother In Law.

To be honest, unless you’re having a tiny guest list (10?) with no elderly guests, I would postpone. NY has taken such a hit during this that even if your wedding gathering is “cleared” to take place I worry you’d have a very very low turnout. 😩

Hello there! Our wedding is in June too. We live in California, but having our wedding in Texas. I’m hoping everything works out and we can still have our wedding. We sent our save the dates out also in January and are supposed to send our invites out the 1st of May. Good luck to you and hopes everything works for the good!

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If it were me, I’d postpone. New York peaking now doesn’t mean they’ll be clear by June and there’s still a possibility they’re wrong on when the peak is going to happen. As far as your mother-in-law goes, let it go. Even if your wedding is happening in June there’s still plenty of time for her to find a dress. My mom didn’t have her dress definitively picked out (she had looked at some but was deciding between a couple) until about 3 weeks before my wedding.

Sounds like your FMIL is being realistic, not negative. But if she's bothering you, I would just step back from discussing the wedding with her and definitely stop worrying about whether or not she gets a dress. If your wedding happens sooner than she is prepared for, I am sure she can just go out and buy a dress at the last minute. If weddings are cleared to happen, then stores will be open.

I want to hope that things will be better by june but i don't think we would be fully at a level of normalcy at all yet, unfortunately. as for your mother in law i think it's just something where you'll see on these forums a lot - we can remind someone so many times but it's still ultimately up to them to decide. it's really annoying having to constantly remind someone to do something and so it comes to a point where ok whatever let them eventually get it or sit out.

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Though I know that the likely hood of my wedding happening in June is low we are still moving forward with planning. We have a backup date for next May so there is no harm in still pushing through till we make a final decision. As far as discussing with her about the wedding; she calls me almost every day and texts me facts, articles, videos, etc of what is going on and says "is this enough to get it through your head". To me this is being negative and hurtful. I have told her many times that I would like her stop; FH has also said things many times but she won't stop.

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I also agree that is being negative and hurtful. For me trying to remain positive during this situation is for the best. I think you are doing the best you can, still planning the wedding for June but knowing that there is a possibility of moving it to next May.

Watching this virus since January, we (USA) at best will not see much normalcy before Mid-Late May, even early June (if we follow China's pattern). I know how important and special this day is, but keeping in mind unless you were planning a smaller / intimate wedding there will likely still be guidance on limiting large gatherings.

If you utilize the wedding website, I'd update with your thoughts and plans and let your guests know what's going on. Or even send a quick postcard to everyone with a link to your wedding website (if they don't already have access) to provide them up-to-date information.

We delayed our Save the Date until last week for our October wedding and added a link to our wedding website. I've notated in it that will we know "where" our wedding is, the venue is not under contract thanks to Covid-19 and actually now is a great time to book hotels through 3rd party vendors because the rates are almost 40-50% discounted.

As news becomes available, we'll share updates on our website.

June 27th NY bride here as well for a 250+ wedding. As of now, my family and vendors are saying to wait it out a few more weeks. My invites are ready to go I am going to wait until the end of April to send them out. If we have to move the date, were looking at June 2021, which I would really really want to avoid. Our guests mostly live in the Tri-State (PA, NY, NJ) area along with Florida. The family we are inviting from Mexico, Italy and Canada we figure won't attend but we are okay with that - as long as the majority of our guests still will attend. It's such a tough call - part of me says to reschedule for peace of mind, sensitivity to the overall situation but on the other hand, I don't want to wait another year, I know people will be excited for a big celebration when this is all said and done, and there are monetary penalties in changing the date.

I am so torn on what to do, my hope turns on and off by the hour. I know another bride getting married on Long Island the week before and she has not moved her wedding either.

Hey, so I am NY state bride too. We are planning on moving forward with our wedding on June 27th. We are hoping for family and friends will still come and join us for our day. We are going to make the best of it. If it does continue around for longer we do have another date set in place as a backup. I am hoping that life will be back to normal.