June Bride, Family Drama due to covid

June might still not be safe to have a wedding. I live in Maryland and we were issued a stay at home order yesterday and it is indefinitely. Virginia also issued a stay at home order until June 10, but it could be longer. So much is unknown at this point that it is possible that June weddings might have to be cancelled. I would definitely have a back up plan in place. Even if the government does start allowing weddings in June, some guests may decide not to attend because of the virus. I know my husband's friend is supposed to be getting married May 30, but I am not really comfortable with the idea of attending his wedding because of the virus. While you can be upset that people might be afraid to attend, I think you need to understand that it is well within their right to decide what they feel is best for their safety.

I understand you are stressed but I don't think you can lay all the blame on your fiancé's uncle or really call this "family drama". This is a global epidemic. Everyone is impacted and stressed.

I'm not minimizing *your* stress, but just want to caution you not to focus the blame on any one person or people. Go ahead and plan for a June wedding *but also* have a realistic backup plan. You are a in a good position to see this coming, unlike the people who had weddings scheduled for mid-March and were blindsided.

I agree with PPs, this isn’t on your FH’s uncle “who just recently got out of jail” (how is that relevant?) I can only imagine how stressful it is to plan a wedding when there are so many unknowns, but you should start considering your options in case this hasn’t cleared up as much as we would all like by June.

I completely understand, it's so hard that millions have been affected and quite honestly we are working on a plan B. I get it, it's hard stressful scary, and fear of the unknown is getting to everyone, granted I work in healthcare and I'm lucky to still have a job but all we can do is be cautious, but I just don't see it being fair that his uncle doesnt know me, he barely met me a week ago, but it's not fair for him to go from family to family saying your going to die if you attend a wedding that he wasnt even invited to but made it known that he was coming regardless, and we are taking every precaution possible, I'm not putting the blame on him by any means but I am however extremely frustrated and needed to vent but feel attacked.

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I feel for you. We rescheduled our April 25th wedding to June 27th. Everyone seems to think we will be okay by then, but I am so afraid we are going to have to cancel, again. It is stressful, scary, and so frustrating. My FMIL keeps telling her family and friends that I am not inviting them (the guests) to the "real" wedding because we are just doing a private immediate family wedding on the original date to honor my passed away father. She has also told several of them that since we are not actually getting married in June they don't need to feel obligated to come.

Obviously you know that people have a right not to come to your wedding if they don't feel safe, but that doesn't mean you don't have the right to be upset and hurt.

Just because the pandemic isn't only affecting you, and your family isn't the only one having problems, does not mean you don't have the right to be aggravated. He has no business (even if he knew you well, to be honest) telling ANY ONE that they are going to die if they come to your wedding. That is fear mongering at its finest and a major problem we have as a society.

I am SO sorry you have to go through this.