June 2021

We are July 2021 in NY which is a 50 person limit. We are going forward no matter what. Who knows when normal will be again and I can’t put my life off for a party. We will find a way to celebrate with everyone over time.


I should add if I were a younger bride, I may choose to postpone. But being 32, it’s just not highest on my list.

View Quoted Comment Totally!!! I guess I should have clarified, regardless of COVID or postponements, my fiancé and I will still be getting married on June 12th whether it is a small elopement ceremony or our current big plans. I guess I’m talking more about a reception. Thanks for the advice, Lauren! Your July wedding will be the bomb!

View Quoted Comment Haha thanks! Reception we will be doing then too. Whether it’s 50 or the planned 200. We also have no dancing right now so we will probably have corn hole, giant jenga, tarot card reader, caricature artist, cigar roller, and some other things planned to keep people entertained.

April AZ bride here & we’re not postponing. Our guest list is around 90 but we do have our Plan B set up which is just a reduction in the guest list. I just made our final payment for our honeymoon (7 night, 1 bedroom honeymoon suite villa at an all inclusive resort in Jamaica).

I would suggest waiting until around April to make a decision as to whether to downsize/postpone the larger reception or not. Talk with your venue and vendors now to come up with a backup plan, but wait until around April to decide whether to use the backup plan or the original plan. Things will likely change between now and June, so whatever restrictions are in place around April will be closer to what the restrictions will be on your wedding day.

Our big wedding is March 2021 and we are continuing to plan as of right now. We have cut our guest list down to about 80 guests. The only way we are postponing is if numbers go up outrageously or if they make the restrictions tighter

Hi! Our wedding is June 12th as well. We’re in Massachusetts and restrictions are extremely tight. All the money we’re spending hardly seems worth it for 10-25 people, no bar, no dancing, masks at all times, an early end time of 9:30pm (our ceremony starts at 6pm!), etc. We did discuss postponing, but we’re both 34 and don’t want to put off the wedding another year. We also don’t want to deal with the hassle of trying to find a new date that works for all our many vendors, or lose deposits. So here we are, keeping our date and hoping for the best. Even still, the uncertainty of future restrictions chews at me and it seems impossible to move forwarding with many of the items on my planning checklist. We sent save the dates to 100 people months ago, so will likely need to reduce the guest list- a decision I’m dreading and putting off for a few more months.

View Quoted Comment Cutting down the guest list is something that we both couldn’t even fathom doing. I’m so sorry it’s taking a toll on you! It would be eating at me too. We haven’t sent our save the dates yet because we are so nervous with everything going on. I hope everything works out for the best! Either way your wedding will be a great time. Thanks for the response!

We are still having our wedding. We cut our guest list down to a single digit number

My wedding is planned for the beginning of November, so we have more time, but we discussed this yesterday as we moved into the new year. We plan to get married either way (barring a truly catastrophic situation), but do not feel comfortable putting anyone in danger and will make changes accordingly. Our full guest list has over 200 people, but we have further guest lists of 150, 100, 50, and 15 people, so we know in almost any eventuality who we would invite. It isn't particularly fun to think about, but I like having a plan.

We will reassess about 6 months out and see what the trend is, and start planning towards that eventuality. Personally if I was getting married in June, which is about 6 months away, I would be imagining some restrictions still, even if largely self imposed.

May 15 in Illinois! We were originally supposed to be October 17, 2020 in NYC. I am FURIOUS with myself for picking May, I wish I picked June or later. It was just so heartbreaking to make the decision to postpone!! Our venue has no more Saturdays now.
My fiancé and I were all set to postpone to August last week, but my planner and some family members talked us into keeping May for now.
We’re definitely going to decide by February 15 if we’re postponing or not! That’s what our planner recommended, 90 days out. I’m really freaking out! Also, our venue is booking up fast and has just a couple of Sundays left, so we might have to find a new venue if we postpone. We already have all our vendors booked and deposits paid. I’m on a really intense and horrible roller coaster of emotions!! I’m going between optimistic, hopeful, panicked, depressed, angry, and a million other feelings. I think we will definitely have more clarity about the situation in Illinois in the next few weeks. The numbers have generally been going down and Pritzker might start lifting restrictions depending on how things go a couple weeks after New Year’s. Our planner is really convinced our wedding will be fine, because it’s less than 50 people and outdoors. Fauci today also said that we did get off to a slow start with the vaccine, but it’s accelerating now and we’re getting back on track. And hopefully Joe Biden will start to save us in a couple weeks!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! This is so hard and totally sucks! And I would honestly feel ok about a June date in Illinois!

Hi fellow COVID brides! It's comforting to hear from others in a similar boat as my fiancé and me. This whole thing sucks. When the first vaccine got FDA approval and they said it could be available to the general public in the spring, everyone was like, "Oh, that's perfect for you!" since my wedding is May 30th. But they weren't factoring in the 2+ months ahead of time that we need to send out invitations! The uncertainty is killing me, and at this point we're hoping the venue will let us/has availability for us to postpone until the fall. Jane, I think your June wedding will go off without a hitch! But our wedding is indoors with an original guest list of 250! We've made peace with the fact that we'll probably have to cut the guest list, but we're reeeallyyy hoping we can have dancing.

Our wedding is in late September, Illinois too! I understand your concern and how anxious you may be. This is a tough and very difficult time for all brides. My friend postponed 3 times already...! It’s crazy and I can’t imagine how I’d feel about that.
We’re holding off about worrying for now only because we’re pretty far out. And if I start worrying now, I’ll be a wreck. We’ll assess the situation in March or April to determine the next steps.
We’re getting married no matter what, we’ll just need to adjust guest lists and will be out a ton of money if we don’t have our original wedding with 145~ people, but it is what it is. Postponing is not an option, as venues are booked up the wazoo now, and we’re not waiting 2+ years to finally get married. I think June will be okay, Covid will definitely still be a thing, but by then things SHOULD keyword SHOULD be under control especially with the vaccines. Right now just continue with planning as normal. In February maybe take time to think of a plan b lists if necessary if you may need to cut the guest list (which I can imagine is difficult, but many people will understand the reasoning behind it)Good luck and stay positive!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this! Whoever comes, comes! Whoever doesn't, doesn't! I'm 7/31/21 & we're going forward no matter what! I've learned it is what it is, you can't remember every single little detail, and you can't make everyone happy! The important thing during these times:
I would still provide PPE for the guests like hand sanitizer and masks. Also, coordinate with the venue to see what they can do to make it COVID friendly!

View Quoted Comment Oh hi date twin!

View Quoted Comment Hello! How are you feeling thus far about our date?

View Quoted Comment I think we have a good chance of having slightly looser restrictions (maybe 100 people, or 50% capacity) but not full. Overall, I would be happy with that. What are your thoughts?

View Quoted Comment I must agree with you! 100 people sounds nice and not overwhelming!

I'm June 13 in NYC. We haven't reached out to the venue at all yet because we assume the rules are going to keep changing.

Last night we sat at discussed our "move forward scenarios" vs our "deal breakers." It was super helpful and let us get on the same page.

For example, our "deal breakers" are:
1- Very few people vaccinated
2- NYC restrictions: are tourist sites in NYC even open? For half our guest list, NYC is a "dream vacation" they've never taken, so it is important to us that their experience is more than just a restricted wedding and then back to the hotel.
3- Tight venue constrictions: seated only, seated by family, wait service only, etc are all deal breakers for us. Our venue is a brewery, and so having people seated by just their household and not able to get up and mingle defeats the purpose. We don't need people traveling to NYC to sit across from JUST their immediate family members at a table for 5 hours. What if you're single, you sit all by yourself lol? weird.
4- Quarantine travel restrictions. Obviously. Right now NY has a 14 day quarantine or a 2 test test-out plan. We can't expect people to do this, so, automatic deal breaker.

Our "move forward scenarios" are:

1- most to all guests are vaccinated
2- masks required but mingling allowed. (not ideal, not a deal breaker)

We also decided on what our guest count go ahead / deal breakers would be.
Althought our original guest list was 150, we've decided that we do not feel comfortable with that regardless of rules. So we are figuring out what our guest list looks like if we invite 100 or less.
We decided the least amount of people we'd be okay with is 75 (based on how our numbers work for us). So we are figuring out that list.
So, if the venue says they can only do 50 - that goes on the deal breaker list and we postpone / cancel.

Right now, this feels like the best / most productive thing we could do was. It was really weighing on me so being able to sit down and come up with different plans for all the hypotheticals has made me feel a lot better.

We will make our final decision by mid March. If not enough has changed and it's not very clear, that is an automatic postpone. Mid March is really the longest I'll wait. This whole experience has been stressful and not exciting the way you hope your engagement / wedding planning is.

I am a June 12, 2021 bride too! We are not postponing at the moment. Our venue in MI said as long as restaurants are open in June we can have it. I would just talk with your venue about what they suggest. Ours will only have the food plated inside and people spaced out at tables. The dance floor will be outside. Our venue also let us set up a plan B date for the reception portion for the fall. I’m hoping restrictions lift in early spring. Stay hopeful, don’t postpone yet.