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Kristina
Dedicated July 2020

July Bride/guest count

Kristina, on May 4, 2020 at 1:38 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5
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Hi ladies,


My FH and I are getting married on July 18 in Bellevue, WA. We have already spent money on the invites and they will be going out soon as my mom and sister said to just send them out anyway. We don’t want to use any type of social media platform for the guests that don’t feel comfortable coming as this has been stressful enough for the both of us. We bought invites for 125 that will be going out by this weekend. I’m hoping we will be in phase 3 or 4 by Mid July but I’m also worried that sending out all those invites people won’t come Or we will have over 50. I’m already super stressed out unlike my FH who would rather have a small wedding. What if more than 50 people say yes but we can have only up to that by July 18. We aren’t going to do another ceremony next year, we just want to be married and start a family as I will be 36 and my FH is 48. This whole process has been so stressful and I’ve gone through so many emotions past couple of months. It’s supposed to be a happy time but it’s felt like hell. Anyway, I would love your thoughts. Much love! ❤️❤️

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Latest activity by Sabrina, on May 5, 2020 at 1:38 AM
  • Jeni
    Devoted July 2021
    Jeni ·
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    July 11 bride here, and we mailed invitations yesterday. Our logic was the same as yours: they're here and paid for, so might as well send them. I also have lots of of older family members who are not comfortable using technology, so paper invites and RSVPs are a must.


    Even though we will have a wedding in the future if we postpone, we are planning to get legally marriee this year regardless. We've been together six years and are close to your age, so we're not going to wait. I think in these unusual times, your invited guests will understand if you go the small ceremony route. And if you still want a big wedding, you can always have a big vow renewal later in your marriage.
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  • W
    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Some couples have included inserts in their invites that say no hard feelings if you can't come, and we might have to disinvite you because of COVID.


    Have you considered B listing? I know it's very frowned upon, but given the circumstances it may help you plan and reduce the number of people you may have to disinvite.
    Honestly, I don't think a 100+ wedding is realistic for this year. I think having a concrete Plan B will help you feel less anxious and in charge.
    Good luck!
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  • Cheyenne
    Beginner July 2021
    Cheyenne ·
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    Have you tried making lists of who you really really want to come and if they do who has to come as well, and then make a list of people that you would invite out of manners and then who would have to come too if you invite those people? Perhaps you can try to shorten the list, narrowing it down to those who you think should definitely participate. People are understanding, I am sure they would understand if they weren't invited.

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  • Anna
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Anna ·
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    Hi!


    Washington bride here. We’re getting married on July 25th in Chelan. We’re still holding off making any concrete plans but are ready to change our 125 guest wedding to 50. I sent out invitations right before this all started due to it being sort of a destination. If we have to cut our count down we will contact everyone and explain either through ourselves or our mothers. Our website also explains that we’re waiting it out. I hope that’s helpful !

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  • Sabrina
    Savvy July 2020
    Sabrina ·
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    Washington bride here as well. We are getting married on July 25th in Bremerton, WA. I am holding off on sending invitations just because I am not sure if we will be in phase 3 or 4 by that point. My fiancé and I have come up with our most important gusts we would like, and are going to try and go for it! After a year and a half of planning it seems crazy to put it off any further!
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