July 11, 2020 wedding

My wedding is July 11th too and I’m starting to feel like we need to figure something else out 😔

Hi Marisa, don't panic! Things happen in life that we can't control so best to just go with the flow. I know that's easier said than done! Our wedding was May 16, and even though we moved it to August 30th, we realize that that's still a toss up. The main thing is to focus on the contracts with your vendors and take command of the conversation. A lot of them are following the CDC and state restrictions, however a lot are also not. So as long as you know what's possible in your state, you go in there firm and let them know that if they can't provide you the service on your day, that they have to adjust your contract to a later date that still has room to be changed again if needed. Be strong and firm. Everything will work out in the end!

I truly believe that most states, if not all, will be back to normal by May or June! Just keep the sept date as backup in case, but I wouldn’t make any moves until maybe mid May, because things change soooo fast!

I'm also July 11th. I think it's way too soon to make any drastic decisions. The projections show improvement expected in the late spring. My venue says they plan on every staying the same.

View Quoted Comment My venue said I could have my ceremony still on my date with 10 people and then have a reception later down the road... I would rather change the date then do that.

Hi Marisa, I’m amazed that we have the same name and it’s spelled the same...so rare! 😊

Hi Marissa


Our date was July 10th. We moved our reception to September 25th. Still will be legally married on our date but no party or big event until later on. I don’t know where you live but I’m in the northeast. I’m also I’m the nursing world. This virus is not just going to “go away” by a certain date. No one is going to be comfortable going to a large event in July after extreme social distancing a month before. I can guarantee that. I figure that late summer there will be more research on how to control this better which is why a September date is best. It’s a hard decision to make, believe me I wanted to be a summer bride so bad. But the way I thought was I have guests that are older family members. And it’s important they be there and feel comfortable. I’d rather make sure everyone can be there. My entire family was relived when I told them the news. Everyone supported me. If you have nothing to loose you should lock it in for September. You’ll feel relieved after.

View Quoted Comment It won't "go away", but it very well could improve to the point that we can lift the social distancing guidelines. Dr. Fauci has said himself that his outlook is that we can relax mitigation efforts once deaths start to decline. It is a personal choice for everyone, but I personally know most of my family would not be concerned once the government lifted restrictions.

We are July 19 and we aren't sure if we should have a back up plan or not. I really don't want to change it and will be satisfied with a small wedding as long as our families are there but what's making it difficult for us is that my alterations appointment keeps getting cancelled because of this. Is anyone else having dress or other vendor problems?

View Quoted Comment Restrictions would be lifted to maybe host smaller events. Not large weddings. It’s not going to go back to complete normalcy by July. We are still going to see deaths in the summer. That’s a fact. I don’t know where you live, but like I said I’m in the northeast. I’m in a hot spot. And I’m a nurse on the frontlines.
You’re right. It is a personal choice. And hopefully people understand how safety for others is more important than a wedding. But I see it everyday. That plays a large part in my attitude about it.

Well we decided to move the date to September 25th, 2020. I feel it was meant to be this way because we had no problems switching all of our vendors and venue had that date open still. I really really want my entire family and friends to come not just 10 people so I am hopeful this was the right choice and we will be able to have the wedding we’ve always wanted in September!!

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I think you made a great decision, Marisa, and how awesome that all your vendors could accommodate the change. I hope you're feeling good about it. I hope this lifts some stress! You're not alone, and a lot of our members are talking about the positives that come with postponing:

Pros to Postponing

Postponement Silver Linings

Wedding Postponement Brides: When is your new date? What wedding preparations do you have more time for now?