Jobs for friends

According to my wedding binder, there are guest book and gift table attendants, ceremony decorations coordinator, florist/photographer helper, gift person (works with gifts table attendant to transport all gifts from wedding to secured location. Preferably someone with a large vehicle), and greeters/ushers. If you have programs or something like confetti/sparklers for the grand exit you can put friends in charge of handing those out at the right times to everyone.

I had a male friend help me set up and he essentially was a greeter

A friend of mine is going to be our MC. I have a cousin who’ll be our DOC. I also have certain friends and family members bringing food and watching the food tables as well as serving punch.
Like what was already mentioned, the greeters and ushers, guestbook attendee or someone to hand out programs. Although right now (meaning in time of COVID) if doing programs it would probably be better to just have them displayed for self-service.

We had a swordfight with our friends we didn't have in the wedding.

But we are trained actors.

So... honestly, inviting them is including them.

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My books say the same as what Kimberly said! If you have a DOC, I'd eliminate decorations coordinator and florist/photog helper. But you'll still need a guest book attendant, gift table attendant(s), gift person, and greeters/ushers. This would definitely help people feel more included! We're planning to ask my partner's siblings to help with these things since they aren't in the wedding party.

Honestly, being invited is being included! If asked of course I’m happy to help BUT sometimes its just as fun when my husband and I don’t have “jobs” at friends weddings. We can just enjoy being guests together. In the past either my husband or I have been greeters, gift people (Id pick someone you trust that won’t be drinking a lot), given readings, been an usher, helped set up and break down decor. I’d probably think of things you genuinely need help with and then ask but don’t worry too much about including people by giving them a job so they’re part of it.

I think inviting them to the wedding is including them enough. I wouldn't stress over coming up with random jobs for people to make them feel included.

Yeah, I agree with others that being invited is being included. I personally feel like having a job during the reception is more of a burden than an honor. We didn't have any guest do any sort of job. The gift table was placed close to the sweetheart table at the front of the room, so it would be pretty visible if someone tried any funny business with the gifts (we just had a sign that said gifts). It may just be where I'm at, but greeters, ushers, guestbook attendants, etc. have not been a thing I've seen at wedding. Even our bridal party was done with their duties after the grand entrance (with the exception of the best man and maid of honor who both wanted to do speeches). Being able to eat, dance, and drink without having a responsibility hanging over their head is the best way to include your guests in the wedding.