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Dedicated January 2020

Job search hindering any wedding planning

April, on February 9, 2019 at 10:17 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 13

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I feel so done with my job. Ever since my awesome woman boss left the company I have been stifled, silenced, and stressed. I have been looking for, applying, and interviewing for new jobs at other companies for 8 months, and as qualified as I am, they just say no. I'm looking for a job in Austin because there's lots of tech and game industry jobs there for me and my FH to go into. But I'm living in san antonio, working at a very corporate/ military type of place. I live about 1 hour away from an edge of austin, so relocation isn't a big deal as long as I'm paid right. I have not gotten paid my fair amount for my experience and position at my current company so it's impossible to just up and leave the stress. I can't even think of what our wedding budget is because I don't know if I'll still be stuck in a job that doesn't pay or treat me right in san antonio or find a new one where I can save up something in Austin. My mind is revolving around the stress of work and trying to find a new job that i have very little room in my mind to think about wedding stuff. Any advice?

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Amanda · on February 9, 2019 at 10:24 AM
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Maybe whrn you get a possition that suits you, you can just take a leave of absense or work only on your days off so your new job gets all the attention plus you can try them out before just changing everything aroud? Then you still have your old job as a crutch. I did that with my jobs (but they were right across the street from eachother, Im bad at geography so I don't know how far yours may be). I am working at a fine job but did want to change it and just know at this time I won't find anything near me that will pay the same so I am stuck at mine at least until after the wedding or more.
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Porterpoppin · on February 9, 2019 at 10:39 AM
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Hey April, I'm sorry you're going through this! Are you set on a December 2019 wedding? Maybe consider pushing the wedding back 6-12 months (or more if that works for you guys) so you can focus solely on your job hunt. That way you can take away the stress of even thinking about wedding plans until you get situated with a job you want.
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April · on February 9, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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We don't have a date set really, but we are set on getting married within or around a year after our engagement, which was on last Christmas eve.
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Colleen · on February 9, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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Can you do a wedding n 2020? Or wait to look for a new job till wedding stuff is done?
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Chariece & Sterling · on February 9, 2019 at 11:29 AM
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April if you are set on getting married within a year I would say stick it out at your current job until after the wedding. You guys allocate a budget for your wedding. What is comfortable for you now. And you might be surprised that planning a wedding might become a stress reliever. And will definitely become a moviation for your workplace. As much you are currently not happy there you will look forward to going to work. Because it is all part of your plan /goal. First your wedding. Than securing another job which values your experience. And possibly relocating good luck with everything .
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Jasmine · on February 9, 2019 at 11:40 AM
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I'm in the same boat. I work 2 jobs already but one sometimes doesn't pay on time so I get hit with late fees for bills and rent and yet even with both jobs it's so hard for me to save anything and it's super stressful. We've already pushed out date back once and I'm afraid that we might actually have to do it again! We're literally at a standstill because we can't make the deposits we need to in order to officially book anything and move forward. I'm honestly just taking it one day at a time, focusing on finding a better job and when we can get back to planning, we'll do so. I would lay off for a bit and take a breather. Don't put any unnecessary stress on yourself. Then when you get back in the groove with the right job, you can always hop back into planning without panic.
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Sadie · on February 9, 2019 at 11:45 AM
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Keep looking for a job but in the meantime I would plan an intimate wedding for December! You can always go big on a vow renewal in five years if you still feel a big wedding is important.

Also, not sure what you do but maybe freelancing is an option for extra cash. I've been a freelancer for about ten years.
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April · on February 10, 2019 at 8:35 AM
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Thanks for your reply, but that would be impossible and stressful to do. The moment I get an offer at a new place I'm putting in 2 weeks notice at the old place immediately because I can't stand to be there any longer. I work full time, 9-5 type work, and it'll be similar maybe longer but fulfilling hours at a new place (tech/ game industry). And I need to move out of san Antonio to Austin eventually anyway.
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April · on February 10, 2019 at 8:45 AM
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Good points. I will continue looking, I haven't stopped applying anywhere. I seem to be able to get the interview and though I think I did very well in the interview (and sometimes they tell me I did great) I'm always getting rejected. Even in my current job which should've given me a promotion last cycle, but they gave it to a guy with less experience and less time at the company than me. Me and my FH will have a small wedding, but not courthouse or elope, we just haven't been able to think of the first steps of it with all the stress going on.
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Savvy May 2019
Sadie · on February 10, 2019 at 10:03 AM
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Re: the promotion... Welcome to being a woman, unfortunately it happens all the time. Even more to women of color. I'm sorry. Keep shining your light.
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Amanda · on February 10, 2019 at 12:17 PM
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Gotcha! Well good luck!!
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James · on March 23, 2020 at 11:47 AM
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I’m used to just sending a resume and completing some testing tasks. But now, the owner wants me to email my portfolio and a cover letter. I still think that examples of my work are enough to make a decision, but I can’t control the requirements of a potential employer. I found some basic hints for my position at https://www.getcoverletter.com/cover-letter-examples/hair-stylist/ and then decided to compose my document there to save time. I got a pretty good paper, especially considering that it only took 10 minutes to make.
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Klementina · on February 8, 2021 at 3:21 PM
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I know that all companies want a resume and cover letter. Therefore, it is important to draw up these and documents as clearly as possible. The recruiter scans documents quickly And it is important to "hook" his understanding
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