Job Interview: Do I tell them about my wedding??

There was a very similar post about this last week. I believe the consensus was not to mention it on the first interview, but definitely in follow up conversations and for sure when they offer the job. My rule of thumb for interviews is that you can't be over-dressed. I would never wear jeans. I don't care how casual the office is, you're trying to sell yourself and jeans don't come off as professional and presentable.

found it: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/do-mention-wedding-at-job-interview/08665f8151d5b9f5.html

1. Always better to be overdressed. I'd wear slacks and a blouse, or slacks, a nice top, with a cardigan. I'd probably wear nice pair of flats.

2. Don't talk about the wedding, not relevant. Wait until you receive an offer, if time off is not discussed, you can bring it up then. ETA- you get the offer, ask them about their time off policy, and say you are getting married (or have a week long trip planned) now for this April. My husband did this and they gave him the option of if he wanted to start right when he got back and not use vacation days, or if he wanted to use 5 of his 10 vacation days early on. He said he would do either and whatever they wanted- they told him to start after, and onboarding actually took longer than expected, and he wouldn't have been able to start at the original date anyway.

Also good luck!

Read this thread: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/nwr-help-me-prep-for-job-interview/b7a87cb2698485ef.html

Wear a nice (dark and not worn) pair of jeans and closed toe flats or cute boots and a blouse with a blazer or cardigan. In the Silicon Valley we call this Casual Smart.

1. Slacks and a blouse is fine. I'd always defer to overdressed but since he specified casual, knock it down a notch.

2. Don't mention the wedding. If he asks about timing, you can mention you have a pre-planned trip for April X-April XX. But normally candidates wait until an offer is made and the time off is part of the negotiation. Once they've decided to hire you, one vacation is not going to change their mind. But discrimination for anticipated family-making is real and I wouldn't mention it at all.

You should dress for the job you want. Overdressed is always better than underdressed.

As for mentioning the wedding, I might be a minority on this one, but I interviewed for my current job approximately 90 days before my wedding, and in the interview I decided to bring it up that I was getting married but I was not planning on taking a honeymoon. I just didn't want to get the job and then surprise them with the news. I wanted to be as forthcoming as possible.

Slacks and button down shirt or sweater is fine. However, I disagree with the ladies. You should definitely tell them about your wedding and impending need for time off.

1. That's kind of tough. Normally, I am in the camp of - never too overdressed for an interview. BUT he told you to dress casually. So, I might find a happy medium between suit and jeans. Maybe khaki slacks with a button up shirt and cardigan with flats? I guess I'm imagining something a little more business casual (so, not jeans and a t-shirt).

2.As PPs have said, definitely don't mention the wedding in the first interview (if it happens to just come up, I'm not sure what I'd do. I guess I might just be honest). If there is a second interview/hiring offer, definitely let them know!

I read the thread you referred me to CaliBride2B. You're the best! Thanks for sharing.

IF you need time off, I would suggest mentioning it, you don't want to waste their time, or your time, if they cant offer you the time off. Also, dress for the job you want. It's ok to be over dressed, you need to impress them, they don't necessarily need to impress you.

good luck!

I literally have 1 week until I will loose my deposit on our beach house if I have to cancel. My FH just landed a new job and he told them during the interview with no issues. But I'm the kind of person who wants to go in with a clean slate. We'd planned our honeymoon for the first of May and that house is literally booked until next fall, so no chance of moving it. GRRRR. It's just one of those life things I guess! Maybe we will have a stay-cation where I just work. Haha!

Definitely no jeans. Slacks and a cardigan or button-down.

Don't mention the wedding. When you get the offer, just tell them you already have a pre-planned trip and need whatever time off. When you start, you can talk to HR about it IF you plan to change your name.

Yep I was about to mention that I had asked about this last week, but KPizzle already gave you the link! The consensus was not to mention the wedding until you receive a job offer.

As far as outfits ... I wouldn't do wool dress slacks, but more casual slacks should be fine. Khakis or black/gray pants. As far as shirt, you can do a casual button-up blouse (ie. not dressy non-iron material) or a cute silky blouse.

I would do slacks and sweater...a little over dressed is still better than under dressed. Tell him about the wedding! First of all it shows you are a grown up- or "settled down" which employers like...plus I would be upfront and let them know you will need off even if you have not gained vacation time yet. That you understand you may have to take off without pay if that is the case, but that you have already put deposits and what not...GOOD LUCK- YOU WILL ROCK IT!

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I wouldn't say anything until you have an offer. Most employers are understanding about pre-planned vacations. I'd wear something work appropriate with a jacket you can take off when you arrive.

The thing about not mentioning the wedding, is it's not relevant. What @ACS did is confusing to me, she said she was getting married, but wasn't going to miss any work? I don't see how that's an issue at all then...

Regardless, I think the biggest fear I would have is that a bride will be "distracted" by the wedding. If you bring it up without being asked, they could subconsciously be reminded about a former employee, friend, family member, their own spouse etc.. who wouldn't shut up about their wedding in the months leading up to it/a few months after it. If they ask you about time off/any trips, OF COURSE tell them. However that's like telling your husband you slept with the entire football/basketball team without them asking- what's the point and what good is it going to do?

ETA- I had a trip planned, when i received an offer and talked to my future employer, I was also very clear I'd be willing to take this as unpaid time off (they paid me still).

However that's like telling your husband you slept with the entire football/basketball team without them asking- what's the point and what good is it going to do?

Okay, I'm laughing over this one. Shouldn't it be followed by, "Just asking for a friend"?

Sorry, I'm not casing aspersions on you. It's just that the wording struck me as funny.

I agree with PP, no denim. Slacks or an appropriate length skirt with a blouse would be perfect.

I wouldn't bring up the wedding. Again you can read in the previous thread about this, but I had an employer once, before I was even engaged, say he didn't want to hire someone that was just going to run off, get married and have babies. Unfortunately people equate getting married with starting a family.

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