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Michelle
Master April 2021

Job Changes

Michelle, on September 16, 2021 at 8:51 AM

Posted in Married Life 24

My husband is a firefighter/medic & the captain of his crew. The whole time we’ve been together (dating, living together, married) he’s always done 48 hrs on, 96 hrs off. Those 2 days I got to do my own thing. Dinner with friends, having my friends come over to play cards, etc. It was my time, a...
My husband is a firefighter/medic & the captain of his crew. The whole time we’ve been together (dating, living together, married) he’s always done 48 hrs on, 96 hrs off. Those 2 days I got to do my own thing. Dinner with friends, having my friends come over to play cards, etc. It was my time, a small life separate from our life. 2 months ago, his battalion chief voluntold him he is being moved to a 40 hour week (Monday-Friday, 8-5) for the next 2years. My husband is definitely not happy about this & my 2 days of “freedom “ are gone. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband & couldn’t imagine being with anyone else but I’ve had 2 days every week for just me (I’m hoping I’m not coming across as selfish!). We’re having to get used to a whole new way of life & so far it’s not too bad. Anyone else who had some major life changes like this? How did you handle it?

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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    That’s awesome! I’m going to start catching out Saturdays to myself. I’ll meet friends for lunch or something & he can have the house to himself!
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Thanks for your input! I’m positive we’ll be fine & will eventually get used to it.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Great idea! And maybe ask him to occasionally do the same so you can enjoy the house to yourself too. Quiet time is soooooo nice!
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    The struggle is real! I taught for 25 years -- on campus MWF, worked from home (grading, prep, etc. -- so totally on my own schedule) on TT.... It was awesome -- I could run errands, do my household chores, etc. any way I wanted to! I'm also a huge introvert, so it was my perfect life (and worked really well with raising our family), to have two full days a week with everyone else out of the house. Five years ago, H retired.... OMG! It was rough for a while -- he was suddenly around all the time, had the TV on a lot (I rarely watch TV), talked constantly (he's a huge extrovert, so I was suddenly his primary audience 24-7).... Holy cow was it a tough transition...and it can still be stressful at times. It's helped for us to carve out things we do independently -- we both exercise almost daily, but we have completely different schedules/routines/locations so I can count on having my alone time to walk and then again when he goes to the gym. We're also lucky to have enough space in our home that I can go to another room to sew or work on other hobbies.... We've been happily married for 35 years, but it still takes work to adjust to changes in routines! Good luck! Smiley heart

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