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Future_Mrs.concanon
Devoted April 2019

Jealousy?

Future_Mrs.concanon, on December 3, 2018 at 3:23 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 20
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I'm curious to know if any brides or future brides to be that are experiencing weird vibes like jealousy or something towards them.

My sister keeps saying I need to postpone my wedding. When i ask her why she goes "I dont know I feel like you just need to?" When she seen my engagement ring shes like "oh that's nice mhhm". Anytime I try to talk about wedding planning since shes my maid of honor, she tries to change the subject or gets an attitude.

A friend of mine today who's known for months that I'm getting married acted like she forgot. She said "oh you're still getting married!?"

I'm just confused why people are acting so weird. Has anyone experienced this kind of awkwardness?

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Latest activity by Milada, on March 4, 2021 at 3:24 PM
  • Molly
    Savvy March 2022
    Molly ·
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    I'm sorry to hear that! I experienced this not with my immediate family but there was one woman who said "Stop, you are too young to get married it's weird" with a completely straight face. I am going to be 27 when I get married so it was a weird comment. I feel like this applies to a lot of things that go right in your life: promotions, children, gf/bf but that's something other people need to get over in their lives. I hope they are supportive in the future!

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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    Congratulations 🎈🍾🎉🎊 on your engagement. I’m sorry that people around you are being so rude.
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  • Alyssa
    Master December 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    To be honest I kind of feel like my best friend might be jealous

    just weird it’s when I talked about wedding stuff once she realized we were doing “real” wedding

    lots in our area plan in a couple of months and just go to a public park and then eat bbq

    she married to someone aftrr 3 months and was pregnant

    she loves him but it wasn’t a dream wedding

    i love her so basically I quit talking Wedding with her except required opinions on dress she wanted to wear (and picked her favorite)
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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated May 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Yes. Ever since I got engaged, people started getting pregnant on purpose, planning their weddings without being engaged, wearing fake engagement rings, and some have cut me off based on the idea that they may not be able to be invited to my wedding. It's a lot!

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Sounds like jealousy which is too bad! Are you the 1st to get married?

    I would either 1) not share as many details and just deal or 2) address it with honesty “When you do “ABC” I feel hurt and would prefer your support. Is there something you want to share? Your friendship means a lot to me & I’d love to share my excitement with you.”
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    What? That’s a lot of crazy behavior! I lost only one friend during my planning. Big hugs to you!
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  • M
    Super November 2019
    Melissa ·
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    I haven't seen anyone act jealous towards me yet and I hope I dont experience it. I've had a couple off-putting moments and comments from people when it came to the wedding such as being called a female dog for picking someone's dream wedding venue (who isnt even engaged) or called rude and a stupid millennial for not adhering to old "wedding ettiquite." People get weird when you get engaged.
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  • Future_Mrs.concanon
    Devoted April 2019
    Future_Mrs.concanon ·
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    That's spooky, I dont know how I would react to that lol. I'll be 27 also when I get married I think I waited long enough also before getting engaged and we're getting married 3 years after we started dating.
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  • Future_Mrs.concanon
    Devoted April 2019
    Future_Mrs.concanon ·
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    That's just plain wrong and childish. I didnt know people could stoop to that level.
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  • Future_Mrs.concanon
    Devoted April 2019
    Future_Mrs.concanon ·
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    My sister is already married, my friend she was engaged but called off her engagement for a few reasons mostly safety. But I should try those approaches though, thank you for your help.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Sometimes, there's "more behind the scenes" with girlfriends so opening the door to communication can usually be helpful.

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  • MrsBlah
    Devoted September 2016
    MrsBlah ·
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    No. Thankfully, people in my life understand getting married is not an accomplishment. Nothing to be jealous about.

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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2018
    Alyssa ·
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    My FSIL who is married! Suddenly it was like a competition to be in the spotlight. I don’t get it! 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m sorry you’re dealing with that crazy!
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  • Alyssa
    Master December 2019
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    I think you’re right

    as a whole a lot of people just can’t be happy for others

    ots still important to try to have empathy and not to also be one of those personalities
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  • Alyssa
    Master December 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    Your crowd is off the chain with all of that!!

    im sorry that you aren’t getting nothing but love and support

    just keep smiling and work hard and try to be good and karma will always have your back when haters come calling
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  • Kimberly
    Devoted September 2019
    Kimberly ·
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    Unfortunately you will constantly feel like people around you are jealous.. every time I try to talk about my wedding to one of my best friends I hear slight jealousy in her tone and then she willl change the subject. I think it’s because she honestly want s a big wedding and is upset because she can’t afford one.
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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    For some reason it seems like wedding's bring out the worst in people. I too unfortunately have been experiencing Jealously. My future sister in law is the queen of one upping and conveniently got pregnant and the baby is due not long after our wedding. I have a ''Friend'' who I thought was a true friend but turned out to be a Narcissist. After I got engaged anytime someone would tell me my ring was pretty or congratulate me she would stare at me with a nasty look on her face. She didn't like the attention I was getting so she started wearing random rings on her ring finger even though she was not engaged. Jealously is terrible! Nobody should have to deal with these type of things. Especially during a time that is supposed to be happy and joyus.

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  • P
    January 2018
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    Yes. My BIL's gf avoided asking almost anything wedding related at all costs. Then she got mad she wasn't involved. LOL. I told her duh. Then she basically forced my BIL to propose 4 weeks before our wedding....well I'm not too sure about the last part. But considering she was threatening to break up with him at month prior, I'm guessing that's how it went done. Needless to say neither my husband or I talk to either of them. Weddings show people's true colors, but honestly I'm thankful for it. Tired of putting in effort for other people who don't care.
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  • Sweetness
    Devoted October 2022
    Sweetness ·
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    I can't foresee us having to deal with anything like this with our group. We have few friends and small families, which helps. Both our mums are very supportive and practical people. 🙂

    My sister on the other hand, would be a nightmare. She was a bridezilla at her own wedding shouting at me for a good 30 minutes about "If you're late" (we were never going to be as we had nothing else scheduled and left in plenty of time). Despite her being naturally great with kids, they decided not to have any, but when I announced my pregnancy 4 years later, she said so many hateful things about our circumstances and that anyone who needed welfare shouldn't be having children. 🙄

    Not surprisingly, I haven't been in touch with her for about 8 years now and she will not be involved or invited to our wedding. She can never be happy and supportive of my choices, and has put down my previous partners over the most petty reasons. If she found them attractive, she would hijack them in some way or other. She has an incredibly childish personality, and is very manipulative. She drops people when she can no longer use them, and then claims that everyone has abandoned her. It's very sad that she feels the need to be that way.
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  • Milada
    Devoted October 2021
    Milada ·
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    The day after my FH proposed, his mother called him angry that he didn't tell her ahead of time. I'm an em-path so I feel energies really well and when she called, everything felt HEAVY. The energy was so dark and off-putting, I begged him to hang up. As soon as he did, everything felt better. She was bitter BIG TIME (she longs to be married and have the type of relationship we have but keeps falling in love super quick with people). She's gotten better I think but she was the main person I knew would be jealous. She has serious issues.

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