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Just Said Yes October 2018

Jealous bridesmaid

Melissa, on April 10, 2018 at 10:16 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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My bridesmaid was jealous that she wasn't maid of honor and wasn't asked to plan my bachelorette party so 2 months before the planned party she decided to throw a surprise bachelorette party, even after my fiance told her that it was a bad idea and not to, for single ladies only which completely excluded my matron of honor. I found out about the surprise and asked her to cancel it and now we are not speaking. We work together and she's been crying to everyone around work saying that I was mean to her. What do I do!?

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Latest activity by RZ_ToBe, on April 11, 2018 at 9:41 AM

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Mrsbdg · on April 10, 2018 at 10:26 PM
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Can you sit down with the three of them and talk about it?
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Carol · on April 10, 2018 at 10:35 PM
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Uhhhh that’s awkward!!! I’m sure she didn’t mean any harm by it... she just wanted to throw you a single ladies Bach party? Soooo were you not allowed to go then too? Lol! She had good intentions surely but it would help if you thanked her for putting in so much effort. Bummer it had to be totally cancelled if she put a lot of time and money into it- I could understand the hard feelings there and if she just wanted to give you a good time even though it came off the wrong way!

Hopefully the moh will allow her to help plan details of the party so she doesn’t feel left out!
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Kat · on April 10, 2018 at 10:36 PM
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She sounds very immature you should sit her down and express to her that this isn't about her and she needs to not stir up drama between your bridal party because that will really take away the joy from this special time for you. You're bridal party is suppose to be there to support and help you through this and take away your stress not add to it or create it. I would honestly tell her to grow up and if she can't then maybe she shouldn't take on the responsibly of bridesmaid.
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Kiki · on April 10, 2018 at 11:23 PM
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Ditto to the tough love. That would really irritate me.
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RZ_ToBe · on April 11, 2018 at 9:41 AM
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Oof, that's super petty of her. If she was so jelly, why didn't she just offer to assist the MOH in planning? Why plan her own version and make am excuse to exclude the MOH? Definitely sit her down and have a serious chat. That kind of behavior is so childish! Ask your MOH (privately) if she minds thus BM helping out (so long the BM agrees not to be childish). If you're given the green light, tell the BM to assist the MOH in the planning or even discuss her planning the shower instead, if that hasn't happened already.
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