Jack & Jill Shower Question...

I don't think I would buy two gifts unless they were two smaller gifts. I would choose whoever you are closer to, and buy something for that person.

I haven't gone to one, either. I think I would pick one of the two, though.

What kind of Jack and Jill is this? Is it the kind where both males and females are invited or the kind you have to buy raffle tickets? If its a raffle I probably would be buying something very small.

I usually go in with a set price I want to spend. If its $50 you could buy something that is $25 from BBB and $25 from Lowes. Or buy for whoever you are closer to. If you are invited because of the bride buy $50 from BBB.

Yeah no. The couple is registered at Lowe's and BBB, purchase a gift as you normally would.

I've never heard of separating the registries out like that; it does seem gift-grabby and probably a lot of people are wondering the same thing! I'd still just buy one gift that they can both use, like a normal shower.

I went to a co-ed shower once. Honestly it wasn't great...but either way...I only took one gift. That's kinda strange they'd register separately?? My FH isn't nuts about registering for table settings but he's also not running to golf town to start his own registry??

I've never heard of separating them either. I would just get a gift off of one or the other.

I think co-ed showers are weird. But if I were to go, I'd buy the gift for whoever I was closer to, the bride or groom. 1 gift. Not 2. Unless you know and love them both equally and you have that kind of money. :\

My FH and I had a co-ed shower and we registered together. Our registry did have some things more "me" like a hand steamer, food processor, decorative pillows but it also had things more "him" like power tools, shelving, a cooler, but at the end of the day everything went to make the home that we share together a little nicer. We never would expect someone to get something for each of us and I find it odd that they registered separately. Purchase one gift and that will be fine.

I agree with Melissa. I would agree on an amount you want to spend and then either get one thing at BBB, one thing at Lowe's or two things smaller things for that amount.

That's strange.

Yeah that's strange. I've heard of being registered at two places, but not buying 1 gift for Bride and 1 for groom. The gift is for the couple. My shower was just me, but technically the gifts were for all of us. I picked out more items but DH and I went together and found dished/cookware/silverware, and bedding we both liked.

I think you can buy two gifts if you want to, but you're definitely not expected to buy two. I usually have a certain dollar amount I want to spend on a shower gift, and sometimes I buy two smaller things to equal that amount if there is nothing right at my desired price point. That is what I would do if I really wanted to buy from both registries (but I probably wouldn't).

I was wondering the same thing as Melissa. This is just a couple shower, right (as opposed to being open to the public with fund raising tickets for sale)?

In any event, I can definitely understand your confusion with the gift situation. The bride and groom are having a shower and they both have distinctly different registries. I would be thinking the same thing -- something for him and something for her. Ultimately, I'd handle it the same way I'd handle any shower gift; I'd look at the registries, pick a store, and then pick one single gift.

I would just do one gift. FH and I are having a co-ed shower (it's being thrown by friends of his family that I've never met, no way was I going in there alone), and we wouldn't expect more than one gift per person. We didn't separate registries out like that, but I feel like that's still a case of "the couple is registered at these two places", it's just that one registry has more of "his" stuff and one has more of "hers".

I have been to lots of Jack & Jill's but none where they are registered to 2 separate stores for wedding gifts. The Jack & Jill's I have gone to were more fundraising for the couple, with raffles and games. If they are expecting gifts, personally I would get them one for both of them.

One gift.

I've been to coed showers and only brought ONE present.

Is it just a coed shower? I would assume you buy your gift(s) just as if the bride was registered at 3 stores, you just buy the gift(s) from whatever store you prefer.

That is super strange. I would feel uncomfortable doing that to my guests!