I'm pretty organized. I have timelines, schedules, etc.. I have documents of all the decorations that need to be set up according to church and venue. I have the church program, the ceremony rehearsal outline, shots that the videographer and photographer need and where, monologue/timeline for the emcee and Dj, all the vendors listed, and for me a FULL MASTER schedule of the timeline & schedule.
We could've hired someone but I felt that this was my responsibility to do. I would rather do all the work than to depend on someone to carry a task. I do have a list of things we can designate to our groomsmen and bridesmaids for the day of.
My church coordinator has not been receptive at all. Our venue is brand new and things have constantly been changing. Honestly, the ONLY times I've ever heard both my church coordinator and venue coordinator are when a payment is due. They'll give resources but they're gone. There are specific things I need (how the projection would work and how we would play a video) and she hasn't responded. With the church, there are certain requirements that the church coordinator hasn't answered that I had to seek from other churches and go on many loopholes. The venue coordinator promised to give notes after our final meeting the next week, including the set up and what we've discussed but she never sent that and it was a month ago. I made the layout myself and told her that as long as it's not violating fire code, we're setting it up the way I made it. No questions anymore and no time for collaboration. I wish they were there when I needed them or give me some sort of reassurance. On the website, she's a "coordinator".
All these tiny little details, I've to do all by myself, FH tries to be helpful but he's so bad at things like this, he stresses out over the tiniest things and sleeps. My dad gives me unnecessary negativity from his anxiety but he doesn't realize how many DETAILS it takes and he judges and thinks that a wedding can happen without a schedule or with things going all over the place.
I've accepted that the day is not going to be perfect but I will be content knowing that there was much thought that went into something like this. I don't like attending events that are not organized at all; I feel like it's such a waste of time. It would be nice that these things would be acknowledged - that at least someone will see my efforts and hard work once the it goes down.
Not a question, just a rant. Thanks all
