It's ok !

I agree with this 1000%

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Thank you I know allot of brides are alittle stressed but nothing to be stressed about what others may feel about their special day only thing that matters is that the bride is excited for the big day.

Absolutely!!! Our wedding is one of the few times I am telling family no Im doing this my way. I gave myself a year and a half to plan and get things done. I also am very well aware that no matter how well prepared I am something will go wrong and I am hoping to just go with the flow. So far my family and my fiances family have loved how Im doing things.

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That's great congrats on your great planning so far everyone likes my ideas about the rustic simple plans that I have done so far it will all be worth it in the end.

View Quoted Comment Yep! Congrats to you as well. Ive seen/been part of wedding parties where the bride was super controlling or not organized or freaked out and I hope to be none of those. As much as we would love for our big day to go absolutely perfect with nothing going wrong thats just unrealistic so I am just planning on things going wrong.

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In all weddings some things do go wrong sometimes but it's ok we brides always have a way of fixing things a few at a time.

Great advice, have a happy wedding!

Couldn't have said it better myself!

Totally agree with you. Most people don't care about the planning, but they are happy and excited for them.
May I add: if no one offers help, it's a blessing!

When my fiancé's sister got marrie, their parents contributed about 50% of the bill. Fiancé's mom turned the planning into a living hell, making it more the wedding she wanted rather than the one her daughter wanted, even though my future sister-IL got her way on certain stuff.The same about my cousin's wedding. Her parents paid for 25% (75% paid by the couple)... but her parents were 2 dictators!Because of these 2 horror stories, and because my dad is unhappy that my fiancé has never asked for his permission nor blessing (he told me he will never ever do it even unless I trully wanted him to ask, which I didn't), we knew before getting engaged, that we would pay 100% ourselves, we would plan it ourselves and we would decline any help offered, including from the siblings anf BFFs . And it's the best decision: my parents and other families are leaving us alone, let us plan the way we want it.

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It's ok to have help with the wedding or other things for me I have been doing most of the planning for my wedding and having help is great actually for me because my maid of honor helped me pick of the bridesmaid dresses and shoes that came out to be actually nice I'm not overwhelmed by the planning I'm actually calm and relaxed and I keep planning a little at a time and most taking breaks and time off is important to breath.

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Don't get me wrong: I agree with you when you say it's ok to have help wity the wedding planning, especially when your fiancé doesn't want to help plan. But you're aware that help comes with unsolicited opinions, negative feedback if your final decision on one thing is not what they would do etc...

Declining any help was the best 'fit' for us since my fiancé is very involved, he has a 50% say on everything and we even made a couple decisions even before we got engaged "just in case", so it helps. Plus: both moms are pretty traditional but we are " semi" traditional , they would push us into doing things we don't want/ we see as unnecessary such as having flower girls, ring bearer, a veil (I'm not wearing one no matter what they think), my fiancé doesn't want a boutonniere, skipping the wedding party, bridal or coed shower etc ...

Sure: eveyone is different but my point is when you're doing it alone or with your groom, you don't have to deal with other people's expectations, especially from the moms and grandmas who, of course always have opposite tastes. 😀However help from siblings, cousins and friends is not a no-no to me if they ever ask us again .,b ecause these are people of same generation, their tastes are l simimar to ours and unlike the parents and grandparenrs, they are willing to respect your wants and your boundaries.