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Rosalie
Dedicated July 2023

Issues with my mom and the dress.

Rosalie, on January 24, 2023 at 3:53 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

Ok, so the other day, I thought it would be cool to add a little pop of color to my dress. Not all over the dress, just some pretty accents. Something summery, like a light pink or blue, or gold to match the color of my bridesmaids dresses. The bridesmaids like the idea, the groom thinks it would be good and then I told my mom. Yes, the same one who is wearing the sparkly silver bride-like gown to my wedding.

She said that people "might get the wrong idea" and when I dug deeper into what she's thinking, she said the guests might think we "did stuff". Then she advised against it and kinda shot it down. And now her worries are getting to me and I'm starting to lean against the idea of a pop of color on the dress. Do you think I should still add color or scrap the idea?

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Latest activity by Erin, on January 24, 2023 at 6:52 PM
  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
    Alyssa ·
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    You know what. I can say with 100% confidence that I've never once thought about the bride and grooms sex life. Nor have I even seen a picture of a wedding dress/bride and thought "omg they did the deed!" If you like it do it. It's your dress you better like what you're wearing!
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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I say do what you want. As Alyssa said, I know I haven't ever nor do I think others have ever attended a wedding and wondered about the couple's sex life.
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    That dates back to a very very old idea about white representing virginity. I don't think anyone would give it even a thought at this point.

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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
    Paige ·
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    I got a giggle out of this, but it's so true. I'm also not delving into a major investigation about whether the dress is technically "ivory" or "eggshell" or anything other than stark white either. Your dress should make you feel like a confident, radiant, beautiful bride HOWEVER YOU CHOOSE TO DO THAT! If you feel best in color, do that! If you want to wear white, do that! The wedding is about the couple, but the bride's dress is 100% about her, so do whatever it is that you want!

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  • T
    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    I think that sounds lovely, especially if it will be matching the colors of the bridal party. As PPs have said, no one cares these days about what color the bride is wearing. Do what make you happy, and don't worry about what old-fashioned, "sparkly silver bride-like gown" wearing Mom thinks about it.

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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    And what is your mother conveying with her bright bride-like gown?

    Sorry. Adorn in the way you see as best.

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  • Erin
    Super May 2022
    Erin ·
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    People don’t really interpret color being on a bride's dress as that meaning anymore. I’ve seen some brides wear a colored ribbon sash at the waist just because they liked it - that was it.


    Wear the pop of color on the dress if it makes YOU happy. I would also suggest putting your mom on an “information diet” and not sharing things with her as much given her history that you've described on your past posts.
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