Issues about fiance's bachelor party

That is retarted and anything can happen such as car trouble or etc. (God Forbid) byt, his reason are unknown, most men make that decision beacuse they don't want their bride-to-be to walk in on their party. That is instill by one of his fellas, who have either expericened this act at someone's else event or their own.

Signed the soon-to- groom myself.

Maybe suggest he do it a day before the rehearsal dinner. Why can't he do it the week before? My soon to be hubby will be having his bachelor party the saturday before the wedding.

Hey Divalichous, that is a little unreasonable, I am always the first to say let your man have a good time with his boys for his bachelor party. But in this situation I'm like what in the heck are they gonna do that late in the evening? Most clubs will be closed, did they rent a room or something? And it's way too far. Maybe you can suggest that they do it a week before and then they can just party in Tampa after the rehearsal dinner. Anyway, hopefully it will work out, we do not need you to be stressed the night before your wedding. Good Luck!

Well Mr Wonderful's family and close friends will be in from out of town that Friday before the wedding. He doesnt take suggestions at all and we are now at a point where I am ready to cancel this wedding because I am getting sick and tired of him and from him not respecting all the work I put into this wedding and he can care less if he sabatoge the wedding by doing something this stupid.

Whoa Diva this is nuts. Not to freak you out but how well do you know the groomsmen? I know of a wedding that had a "similar" thing happened. But the kicker is the groomsmen handcuffed or tied or something the groom in the hotel room(many states away) & got their behinds back in plenty of time for the wedding & then PRETENDED they had no idea where the groom was! Jerks!! I would ask your fiance to please please please do the bachelor party a week earlier. The whole idea just screams INSANITY

The very first thing you must think about (and maybe discuss with your Fiance) is your mutual consideration of each other. Is this merely an "I want" situation for him, and him only? Some of the other responses posted have mentioned innocent "car breaking down" situations which could prevent him from making it back on time. But the truth is, why can't he hold the bachelor's party locally? Or is there something that might happen which he doesn't want you to catch wind of?

Yes, bachelor and bachelorette parties are meant to be a last big "boys" or "girls" night out together, but not meant to be a last opportunity to do something, let's say, unscrupulous. This is a big demonstration of mutual devotion to each other......having an event which demonstrates trustworthiness and set's a tone for your married life together. He needs to start thinking about the big picture, which is you and him together as one single entity, not just him. Good luck with your talk!

Girl........what is going on with this situation? You haven't posted in a while. I was so awe struck about the fiance doing this that I told everyone in work about the situation with you & everyone's mouth just dropped open. No one can believe he will really take the chance less than 24 hrs. before the wedding! Let us know what's happening.

Their plan sounds fine...if it wasn't the day before the wedding! I'm assuming there is going to be drinking going on. Sure he'll make it in time for the wedding, but doesn't he want to be his "BEST" for you and not just getting over a hangover? Both of you need plenty of rest or as much as you can get anyway. Who wants to face each other at the altar with bloodshot eyes and being dehydrated/exhausted from the night before anyway? Besides, both of you need as much energy as you can for your honeymoon. Remember, both of you need to be at your "BEST" and not just barely making it.

I dont know how you figure the plan sounds fine. I know its your opinion but check this out. The rehearsal dinner is at 7pm on Friday the 17th it may be done at 9 or 9:30 pm. They will need to drive to Miami a 3 1/2 to 4 hour drive from Tampa. That will get them there at 1 to 1:30 am on Saturday the 18th the day of our wedding. Drinking the remainder of the time. They would still have to drive back in order to be at the wedding site at five pm to greet guests and the ceremony starts at 6 pm. What if the car breaks down? What if they over sleep? I am praying that he will change his mind. We did have counseling with my pastor and I hope that he will see that the wedding is more important than a bachelor party.

Actually, I think that she meant that the plan would have sounded ok if he wasn't doing it the night before the wedding. And, I agree with you. His plan is crazy! He really needs to prioritize and realize that you and him are priority! Hopefully, you can make him see this. Keep us posted.

Most men don't take advice too well. So I would try NOT to say what we are posting online. He will not care what we are saying and figure we are all just male bashing him. But the truth is........my opinion, he seems to have something to hide...he should be tired after his DRIVE there to even enjoy a bachlor party, let alone, DRIVE back in a few hours to enjoy his WEDDING..........Does not sound right to me either!

Three weeks ago he came to a conclusion that he is not going because his friends and I finally got to him to make him realize that it's too much of a chance for not making it back in time. No he has nothing to hide, he is not even from here so he know nobody in Miami. So all is good thanks for all of your advice.

Hooray!!!!!!!!!! Your man came to his senses, come on I know it's cuz you knocked the sense into him LOL!!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad 1 less thing for you to stress about & the big day is right around the corner, Good luck & post pictures!