Hey everyone, I want to get your opinion/advice on this one.
So my mother (lord knows I love her to death) has been a little controlling and over bearing through this wedding planning. She has definitely let know what her opinion is about everything not putting my feelings into consideration. Most of the time to keep from having a fight about things I have backed off and just let her do her thing, mainly because my parents are paying for a majority of the wedding and I do not want to be selfish. Through out this whole process I have been a pretty laid back bride and tried to think about everyone else involved other than myself.
With that being said a few weeks ago me and my future husband were at my parents house for dinner just the 4 of us. We were not doing wedding stuff just hanging out, in the middle of a conversation my mother says to me and my FH "Me and your father want to do a dance just the two of us, kind of like a spotlight dance/ first dance" I was very confused at first and just stared at her. Then I said "What??" "Why would you guys get a dance by yourself at our wedding, I have never heard of that". She then went on saying that we could call it the finances dance, like she was holding it over my head that they are paying for it so they can do what they want. I even tried to compromise and say that we could all do a like Years Dance and start with them and my FH's parents and us on the dance floor just all of us and then the DJ would have everyone else come on the dance floor and for every couple adds 5 years or something like that. She just looked at me like that's not good enough.
I feel like that was my final straw, I had to walk out of the room and my FH found me in the hallway crying. I feel as though she is trying to take the spotlight away from me in more ways than one. Next thing I know she will be buying a white dress.
Am I in the wrong for not wanting this dance to happen? Am I being selfish to not want another couple have a spotlight dance at my wedding?
