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Isn’t it common sense to not post wedding pictures before the couple?

The Sealpups, on December 31, 2019 at 9:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 14

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I know we live in a social media age but even with our unplugged ceremony sign, people were so oblivious and still took pictures on their phones and cameras. There’s a shot of me coming down the aisle and there’s an uncle behind me with a camera.

During my reception, I saw random guests posts private pictures of my wedding party from after the ceremony. Turns out they were reposting from the best man’s wife. She was there and took all those pictures. What sucks is that these were photos and shots we paid for our photographer to take. When I later went through her phone, she took shots of everything. Husband and I aren’t big social media people but it would’ve been nice that we were the ones to post those pictures (even if there were 5 highlight pics). Random strangers already saw this and commented, thanks to her and it’s ruined. She eventually took it down but that should’ve been for us to post. It’s our news, therefore, we should’ve been the one posting.
I’m still getting over it and I have to realize that not everyone has common courtesy. I’m now planning ahead to when we have kids. I can only imagine people or random family wanting to go to the hospital just to get a picture of the baby to post. I forgot how thirsty people were to be the special person to break an “exclusive” picture.

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Latest activity by Laura, on January 3, 2020 at 9:53 PM

Devoted September 2012
The Sealpups · on December 31, 2019 at 9:37 PM
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Sucks that the bootleg iPhone photos she took (of the shots we paid for) were already posted
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Master October 2021
Sexypoodle · on December 31, 2019 at 9:42 PM
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Unfortunately, I’ve learned that common sense isn’t always common.
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Devoted July 2020
Kristyn · on December 31, 2019 at 9:43 PM
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I completely understand your frustration its such a big event for you and your husband and those are things we ourselves want to express and get the comments on! I know I would be upset for sure but nothing could take the experience amd love and memories away from you when we had our triplets we made it a point to tell everyone that daddy was the first person to post pictures and announce that they were here. thankfully everyone understood and didnt ruin it for us. so Iwould just make it a point to say it for the next time that way everyone knows how important that is for you guys
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Destiny · on December 31, 2019 at 10:22 PM
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When i have my first kid NO-ONE will know when i go into labor besides fh and there will be a phone basket by the door so no-one will be posting pics until we get to!
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on December 31, 2019 at 10:27 PM
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Unfortunately it isn't common sense. My mom posted on Facebook that I got engaged before I did. We made her remove it so that we could post it first. Social media has taken over our lives so people don't really think about how others will be effected by their posts.
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Dedicated October 2020
Erin · on January 1, 2020 at 2:23 AM
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We are going to have an unplugged sign and I'm having my fiance directly talk to his family about keeping their phones away during the ceremony. I've been to weddings in his family and one family member in particular will post photos right after the ceremony is over. I think the couple should be the first to post, especially because we pay photographers! But unfortunately people don't get it.
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Rachel · on January 1, 2020 at 11:38 AM
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Yes, it’s frustrating. But try not to read so much into it, they’re all just excited for you. I don’t think people are really trying to have an exclusive first post of your wedding... are you a celebrity and they are paparazzi or are these your family and friends? At any rate, your pro pics will still blow their iPhone pics out of the water, so don’t stress.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on January 1, 2020 at 12:20 PM
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Sometimes people usually don't think about pre-posting potentially offending the bride and groom. We had several post photos they had taken with us, and this was before I even saw previews for our pro photos. I'm actually grateful for those photos because it gave me something to enjoy while waiting for pro pics!
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Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on January 2, 2020 at 11:01 AM
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My step uncle posted pictures of us during the reception 🤦‍♀️I’m not dwelling on it though.
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Super January 2020
Rebecca · on January 2, 2020 at 11:14 AM
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That is a nice way to look at it
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on January 2, 2020 at 1:20 PM
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I typically don't post anything before the bride & groom, but we didn't care at all if anyone else did.
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Merline · on January 2, 2020 at 1:45 PM
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People are so caught up in social media, it's disgusting. Last year, when FH and I went to his aunt house for Thanksgiving, she asked him "are you going to make her wait to be your wife?" and I was like actually we've been engaged for a few weeks now and she goes "WHAT?!? I did not see that post on FB" and we laughed because we did not post it for 3 month, so we could enjoy our engagement. My SIL had to tell her friend to remove a picture that she posted after leaving the hospital when she had her son. Some people just feel like they have to be the first person to break the news, whether it's good/bad. We plan on having an unplugged ceremony as well, I already told my family/friends that I will untag myself on all pics posted before we even change our relationship status lol.
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Savvy September 2021
Melanie · on January 3, 2020 at 8:37 PM
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I am ok with people posting photos from our reception, but the ceremony should be a no no. As well as formal photos done with the photgrapher.
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Laura · on January 3, 2020 at 9:53 PM
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This happened to us too. My husband’s co-worker posted DOZENS of pics before even leaving the reception. We’re not Facebook friends and my husband didn’t mention it, so fortunately I didn’t find out til much later. But still, I was livid. Be excited, great, but be respectful! It was just thoughtless on her part and disappointing for me.
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