Is your REAL dad or STEP-dad walking you down the aisle?

Lol neither. My stepfather was not my stand in father and my father is a jackass.

If you're worried about hurting feelings, choose neither.

I had my dad walk me in and 'hand me off" to my step dad (he was standing at the beginning of the aisle) who then walked me down the aisle. When they asked who gives the woman to marry this man I asked him to say "her mother, her father, and I". Some may think that was an awkward situation and it was, I felt bad, I didn't want to hurt any feelings but it worked and I think everyone was ultimately happy in the end.

If I was in your situation, I would choose my step-dad. I have a good relationship with both bio and step dad, so I am planning on them both walking me. His family should know how he is and understand that this isn't a slight on them...hopefully.

My step dad is walking me down the aisle but that's because my real dad is not in my life. To me is sounds like your step dad deserve the honor.

My step-dad did along with my mother. My father is a piece of shit and didn't even deserve the honor of being invited to the wedding, never mind walking me down the aisle.

My paternal grandfather and aunt still came. I pretty lost touch with my aunt, but kind of made nice at my grandmother's funeral. She helped my grandfather, too.

Sorry, didn't read because I need to leave for work, but going off the title: My friend is having her step-dad walk her down the aisle. Although she still talks to her dad, it's not often because he goes in and out. But her step-dad is always there. She told me her dad is just going to have to deal with it. And she's a HUGE family girl.

I didn't invite him. He didn't deserve it. And it wasn't worth the drama for me. I invited his father and sister and I hope that stung a little. He texted me on rehearsal day, and I deleted it.

This is hard for me because I get upset when anyone refers to my step dad as my "step dad" if that makes sense lol. Technically he is, but in my heart he is my real Dad. I have a birth father of course but he has always been hit and miss. My "step" dad has been in my life since I was 4 months old and he married my mom when I was 2yo. They have been married for 26 years. He has always been there for me and I have always called him "Dad." Every milestone, ceremony, graduation, my pregnancy, and any other huge thing he has always been there. So I never thought twice about it.

To answer your question go with your heart. You know in your heart who should be walking you down the aisle. I unfortunately can't make that decision for you. GL!

Both.

@Alicia - i agree with MoonRide. Don't worry about your "real" dad's feelings, this is YOUR wedding day.

My "real" father also denied me the first few years of my life, and i could count on both my hands how many times i've seen him and/or talked to him.

My step father wasn't any better! Abusive to my mother (they're divorced) and all around useless member of the family. More like a 'life sucker' than anything else!

My brother will be walking me down the aisle. He may be younger but he's a great young man and better than the other two so called 'father figures'.

My step dad is my real dad and I'm honored that he will be walking me down the aisle. But my sperm donor is a non factor to me so neither him or any of his family are invited.

@Alicia - go with what you will not regret. If you feel that your stepdad is the man in your life that shaped you most into the woman that you are now, then maybe that's the person who is most appropriate to walk you down the aisle to your FH, and you don't need to feel guilty about that. Most of all don't feel badly about what you choose, this is your day with your husband, and everyone else is lucky to get to be there for you.

Neither I don't have a step dad and I couldn't tell you what my real dad looked like. I'm having my twin nieces walk me down. I love them like they are my own kids so it will be perfect.

I'd ask your step dad, because he sounds great, really excited about you getting married, and based on what happened at my step sister's wedding...

I have two step sisters, who were my step mom's from a previous marriage. My step sister's real dad was really terrible. Abusive, alcoholic... My sisters still kept in some contact with him throughout the years, the odd visit or phone call etc. My dad and step mom have been together for 20+ years and my dad is amazing. He raised my sisters as if they were his own (he came into their lives when they were 6 and 8), supported them, and never said a bad word about their father, even knowing what a nasty person he was. Well, my one step sister got married a few years ago and asked her real dad to walk her down the aisle because she thought that was the right thing to do, and didn't want to offend him. Turns out, my dad was extremely hurt by her decision, given that he had been such a great dad to her. As he always said, "any asshole can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad." In the end, the real father declined the wedding invite and my dad walked her down the aisle. I don't think he ever said anything to my sister, cause that's the kind of man he is, but he has brought it up on occasion to me since then.

Definitely ask your step-dad! I've always told people that your mom can be your mom and your dad can be your dad, but that doesn't make them your parents. To me that association deserves to be given to someone who has loved, raised and support me. So even though your dad is your dad your step-dad has really stepped up to the plate when he didn't have too and did all these things for you. He completely deserves that spot in my opinion. And if your dad may not show up he probably doesn't even deserve the invite.

My grandfather is walking me down the aisle! (family troubles, I dont even think dad knows of the wedding)

God forbid grandfather is sick, my mom! Let me tell you, I attended a wedding this weekend where mom walked bride down the aisle. I cried like a baby

My grandfather the first time. I am walking along part way and FH is meeting me.

My birth father is practically non existent. And my step dad is an ass and he and my mom are going through a nasty divorce currently. My grandpa, who was my legal guardian and the only man I look up to, is walking me down.

Mrs. Pope, your situation sounds literally exactly the same as my FHs father situation. His birth father won't be there, but the man he calls dad will be there sitting front and center.

My "donor" as we refer to him is not invited to the wedding and is none too happy about that. Instead I'm having both of my grandpa's walk me down the aisle.

In your situation I would choose your step dad and explain to your dad's family that you felt uncomfortable asking him since you don't have a close relationship. If you're still concerned maybe ask your mom, a close friend or even just walk by yourself.