Is your fiance very involved in the wedding planning?

Mine is very involved, especially with the things that are most important to him like food, music, the tuxes. I handle more of the smaller detailed things like décor and invites because he doesn't care as much and he knows I'm super detail oriented and like doing those things so he leaves me to it. I think it's normal for a lot of guys to not be super involved in a lot of the planning but I think there should be certain aspects they help you out with.

FH and I picked out the major things together (venue, photographer, catering, menswear etc.), but as far as actual planning - decor, flowers, corresponding w/the vendors, working through the "to-do" list, that's been all me.

FH is involved in everything and then he goes to work and all of his male coworkers are giving advice too which is getting on my nerves..but some of the advice is pretty good....He has helped with the venue, decorations, cake, tastings, photographer, dj,menswear,videographer

FH does not care about a thing. He really just wanted to go to the courthouse but my family expects a big wedding both just because that is the kind of people they are and because I am the only girl (cousins, nephews, etc are all boys) and my parents are paying for it so...big wedding it is. I dragged him to see venues with me and he did have some input on that, he also sat down with the photographer with me, but other than that, its just been "whatever you want baby, it's your day". I couldn't even get him to pick out his own damn shoes without a fight lol.

Mine has been involved every step of the way. We have planned and picked every single aspect together. He's even done a lot of design work for our bit day. But, this isn't the norm from what I understand. Most grooms just let the bride do most of the work.

Mine does almost nothing. He occasionally gives opinions and has paid about half of the deposits but I’ve planned everything mostly by myself.

My FH is not really involved with the planning. He makes it clear that he wants a wedding, (we both come from big families) but he wants NOTHING to do with the planning process

Mine has been semi involved. Prior to deciding anything, he created an excel spreadsheet which lists out each vendor and how much we can spend on each thing. He based this on average percentages of what you should spend of your budget so he had to do some research to determine that. When selecting the venue, he said it didn't matter to him where we had it. We live in MD, my family lives in PA, and his close family lives in NJ, but he has more relatives all over the United States. I selected 6-7 places for us to look at and he went with me and our mothers to look at the venues. We made the decision together. As for other vendors, I selected the DJ, photographer, videographer, and hair and makeup. Before I signed any contracts with them, I had him read over them. We both agreed on our colors. We both went together to pick out the tuxes for him, the groomsmen, our ring bearer, and my father (his father isn't getting a tux he is wearing a suit he already owns). I went with him and the guys when they got measured for their tuxes. My fiance had a specific photo in mind for the save the date so he created the save the date with a cute saying. His late name is Thayer so on our save the date we wrote Almost Thayer. He has also gone to meetings with the venue, florist/decorator, and baker. He plans on building our cardbox. We are doing a mini house and they are so expense on Etsy and he went to college for construction so he can handle building and painting it. I created invitations and I sent him 4 different options so I am waiting for him to pick which one he likes best. He is also supposed to be creating the escort cards. He is a hockey fan and he wants the escort cards to look like hockey tickets. He also went with his mother and I to buy fabric for the flower girls dresses his mother is making. He is going to do the seating chart because of the 175 people we have invited like 60 are mine so I am leaving that up to him because he knows better than I do who in his family to sit at the same table. He is also in charging of anything alcohol related because I don't drink.

Only thing my FH was involved in was budget. I always let him know what I am doing but he's not really a planner he's very traditional so he believes that I should plan the wedding I've always dreamed of and he supports me in that I even picked out his outfit!

View Quoted Comment Hahaa my situation is the opposite! I just wanted to go to the courthouse, but he's the firstborn, first to actually get married, ect. And his family wants a big wedding! I'm still funneling all the ideas and everything through what I like and am comfortable with, but any idea that pops into his head gets added into the wedding. I still ended up doing a lot of the work, but I think most of the weddingy things are just targeted towards women. My fiancé does do anything and everything I ask of him which is super helpful.

My FH has been minimally involved. I run stuff by him but it’s generally just “ok, whatever you want”. Says since he’s never been to a wedding (how is that possible?) he doesn’t know enough to really have an opinion.

Mine isn't SUPER involved, but involved. He helped with the guest list, he picked his groomsmen & went looking for attire with me. He filled & stamped invites and save the dates. He toured venues, did food tastings & dessert tastings. Other than that, all me!

He is involved but not really. He knows I like planning things so he gets involved when I ask him to help. We picked out the venue together and I have showed him suits, color schemes, flowers, cakes, etc. and he’ll tell me what he likes and what he doesn’t

We picked colors, venue and the date together. I wanted it be a team effort because it's our wedding but he said the wedding is for the female. I still run every detail by him to get his input but it doesn't really matter to him. This bothered me and first but the more we talked about it the better I understood and details overwhelm him. He said he just wants to meet me at the alter and the making it pretty is secondary. Every man is different...except your differences and dont take his lack of planning personal. Lack of planning doesn't mean he's not engaged and nonchalant about the wedding.

FH is very involved. Honestly, if he weren't, I would just take him to city hall. This is too much for one person to do.

I'm the organized one with the accounts on wedding websites and spreadsheets, and sometimes he's like, "let's do Y!" ...which is not something you can do until you do X... but he's just enthusiastic. I remind him to look at the timeline, then.

My FH is not super involved, through no fault of his own! I work from home so it’s so easy for me to pick it up and plan it out while he’s away, though I run everything by him to see what excites us the most. He helps in so many other ways, but trusts my vision for the day!

He is incredibly excited, and showers me in endless praises for the thing’s I’ve managed to find!, which keeps it from feeling very one sided. And he does go with me to all appointments.

Mine is involved when it comes to decisions. ANd he even said " I think you just need me to say yes I approve of your choice" Which is pretty true LOL.

I consult him before making decisions because he has preference on things that I normally wouldn't think he'd care about. So I always ask his thoughts before making a decision. i try not to be offended that he doesn't care about what the cake looks like as long as he has cake and things like that haha.

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I guess I need to hear this. Bc today I was really taking it personally and I was going to vent until I searched for a post like this lol. It sucks that we're left to figure the smaller details out on our own. Like if I don't seriously think about getting the invites out, I know he won't even though it's OUR wedding after all. He tells people, "She's stressed about the wedding." Really? Would you rather I not do anything like you and just have the day come with no preparations in place whatsoever. URGH.