Is wedding planning supposed to be fun?

1. Your wedding is in 15 months.

2. Nobody, not even your mom, is going to be as excited for your wedding as you are.

Do not involve people in the planning who don't want to be.

I thought it would be fun, but it is all drama and stress all the time!

It seems easier to try to please everyone but this is your happy moment you and your FH are the ones everyone should make sure is pleased not the other way around If it doesn't make you happy don't do it point blank period

Yes, it's supposed to be fun for YOU not the whole world. You can find small ways to include them that THEY are comfortable with. Chill and try not to be so pushy.

Also keep in mind that planning and planning well is WORK so don't be discouraged by bad days and incidents. Focus on the overall goal and overall joy of planning your wedding and let that guide you.

@Kristyn, I get where you're coming from. No one, neither my family nor FH's family, is really that excited about the wedding at all. It's gotten me down periodically but I just try and focus on the excitement FH and I are feeling about it. People aren't always going to be excited during the planning process but they will be excited at the wedding. Try to keep that in mind.

Speaking as someone whose wedding is the same day as yours, most of the wedding talk has been between myself and the FH. We've spoken a little bit to others who range from excited to barely listening. You don't have to involve anyone if you don't want to. If you want to, you can ask them for the occasional opinion if you feel like it would make your fiancé happier.

Planning is NO FUN AT ALL! All those hopes and dreams came crashing for me pretty fast when it came down to it. Advice --> I wouldn't include anyone that doesn't want to be. All your going to get is opinions you don't want and drama you don't need.

Excitement will come, just make the best of what you can with who is excited now.

So I've heard. I think the truth is, it is just stressful. Family drama can take all the joy out of it. My FBIL and his now wife caused so much hurt for us when we got engaged that we didn't actually start planning for almost 3 months - I thought we were going to have to put off the wedding. Finally decided to just live our lives. Being married to your best friend will be fun - we all just need to get there!

1. It's a ways out from your day and so it's not as exciting to others yet

2. Maybe they don't want to be involved and feeling forced into attending wedding planning events might make them unhappy

3. For now just plan with you and FH. When you get closer with fittings and tastings try again to see if they're interested but if not don't push it

I wasn't forcing anyone to help me plan. First they complained that they weren't involved enough, so I tried to include them and they weren't even interested. People just need to complain for the sake of complaining. It's not fair to us at all. Not to mention, it really hurts my FH's feelings. Thanks for all the advice <3

Kristyn-- is this a pattern with your inlaws-- to complain and then reject the solution? If it is, you might try, next time, "Hmm.... sounds like you're feeling.... (left out, neglected, overworked-- whatever they're complaining about). Can I help with that?"

It's also entirely possible that your MIL also thought wedding planning would be more fun but has also learned a harsh truth, but unlike you, she can stop.