Is this too much money for our minimony?

Nooo thats definitely not too much money. My minimony is in 4 days and we spent wayyyy more than that (we will have about 30-35 guests). I wish we could've spent around $750 or even $950 for ours lol.

No that is not a lot of money for an event of that size.

That's not a lot at all! I have seen a couple elope with just 5 people total and still spend $10,000

LOL you want to tell him what I am spending? Girl trust me you are good. Even if I stuck to just a ceremony, dinner and the venue we would spend $1200.

That is an extremely reasonable cost for what you're having, however, only the two of you can decide how much is too much for your personal budget.

It doesn't matter what other people think is the right amount or too much. Everyone looks at money differently. But it does matter what your future spouse thinks is too much. Sounds like you two need to have some good money management/budgeting/priority conversations to get on the same page. Money comes up so often during marriage, so it pays (sorry, pun not intended) to learn how to communicate and compromise now.

That's a great price! I wish ours was that cost

You're spending $60 per person, which is a steal for a wedding. That's how much it would cost for a nice steakhouse. For this price, you're also getting a whole wedding out of this

Lol we are doing 25 people micro wedding at 2locations( one for the ceremony and one for reception) right now it’s about 8/9k already lol so you can tell your Fh it’s okay

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I can agree to this but I will say this and maybe others will disagree. For what I am spending on photography I am sure my FH would not want to shell that out but I wanted good photography so I am playing for it. I st down with my FH and we discussed what we should spend but if there were things I wanted then I make money and I worked extra for more money so I am getting it. Maybe ask him what he is comfortable spending and then express to him things you want and see if he is okay with you splurging to get that. Obviously you do not want to run into debt. Everything towards are wedding is paid off because I saved up and did extra jobs within my school to make that money so I do not feel guilty. I just cut back and until the day of I am still putting money aside and spending less on personal non important things. In my opinion if one person wants something a little more out of a wedding I do not think it is bad they spend their hard earned money for it if they can afford it.

To me, that sounds like a very reasonable cost! Though if your fiance is not on board, I would suggest sitting down and having a conversation to find out what he thinks is reasonable, and find a way to come to a compromise. If there are any "extras" that you don't really need (such as wedding favors), you could always eliminate those to save a little more money if that's a big concern.

That is insanely cheap!!! Lol I didn’t know that was possible to spend so little on a minimony. I say good job lol

About $50 per person, in a restaurant, would be a nice dinner with 2 drinks, layer cake or baklava, and coffee, at a medium priced restaurant. Home dinner party style, you could do the dinner and drinks for $10-15, you do all the cooking, and shopping, but formal photos, someone to perform the marriage, those are not scaled down in cost when they come to your home. Nothing outrageous in your plan, that I can can see.

Definitely not! We had 15 people at ours and we spent more than that on just food. And also on flowers. As long as you can spend that much money without having to give up things you need (food, electricity, etc) there's nothing wrong with splurging a little on your wedding day.

View Quoted Comment This really depends where you live. $50 at a nice restaurant in Chicago will get you two cocktails.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I lived in Boston a number of years, ouch there too. Last wedding I went down to, $24 to park, $10 coat check on a snowy day. The rest of $50 wouldn't get you a drink. In relatively inexpensive Northern NH terms, I think bride has done well at that price.

Does your FH want to know what a "cheap" wedding in NYC costs?

About $30k.

You are pulling off a minimony for the price of my dress and alterations!

I do get that he’s think about the double costs because y’all are still planning the bigger celebration later, but realistically I don’t think you’re spending too much. A few months ago, I was looking at this option too. My plan was to still use the same dress for both ceremonies, but I would have needed 2 bouquets, and to decide whether to have my photographer complete the original package now or at the second ceremony and then pay an hourly rate for the other to still get both. And then there’s whether I had my hair and makeup done professionally for both or not. All those little things that have to be bought for each ceremony, they all start to add up, and I haven’t even mentioned food.