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Is this to weird for people to get past?

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Tiffany, on September 16, 2019 at 10:29 AM

I’m recently engaged and marrying the man of my dreams in May 2020. This is my second marriage. My first marriage was awful. Here’s the thing: I planned my dream wedding with my first marriage. He helped me NONE and made it a miserable experience but visually I had my perfect dream wedding! Just with the absolute wrong guy. Now I’m planning a wedding with the perfect man. There is this beautiful property that I worked on when I was 18. It was my dream to get married there... and I did. Now here I am wishing I never wasted that moment on my ex. I want to get married there again! How weird is that?? surprisingly, my fiancé is fine with it! But everyone else thinks it’s a terrible idea. I have no attachment to the memories of my first wedding. My fiancé and I visit this property often for drinks, dinner and overnights as he knows this place is close to my heart from childhood. Any other venue comes in second to this place for me... but is it jusT too weird for others to get past?

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Super July 2019
MD · on September 16, 2019 at 4:19 PM
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I couldn't do it as the bride, and as a guest I'd find it odd, but that might just be me!
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Tiffany · on September 16, 2019 at 4:24 PM
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No, I think that’s most! I’m the odd one. But maybe I’m ok with that. Lol.
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VIP November 2019
Catherine · on September 16, 2019 at 4:58 PM
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Absolutely! sometimes you just need an outside/non-bias opinion I hope you have the most perfect day!
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Jennifer · on September 16, 2019 at 9:41 PM
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Not everyone gets the chance at a do over... #SayingIDoOver
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Tiffany · on September 17, 2019 at 4:32 AM
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Thank you! I will definitely make sure we both feel 100% comfortable before moving forward
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Tigriswc · on September 18, 2019 at 1:24 AM
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Keep the things that are important to you, like the venue, but don't do everything exactly the same. Collaborate with your DFH on something that expresses both of you as you are now. Even if that includes a lot of what you already have done.
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Theresa · on September 18, 2019 at 7:06 PM
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People worry about the oddest things. If you love the venue and your FH has no issues with it, go for it! Presumably other things will be different, such as the dress, color theme, flower choices, etc. It's not like you're having a re-do of your first wedding and trying to hold on to the past, you just love the venue for it's own merits. Everyone other than you two can get over it.
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Kk · on September 19, 2019 at 12:28 PM
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Honestly, as long as your FH really doesn't care, do it! Who cares what everyone else thinks. If you have a wedding website, maybe you can put an explanation on there (not that you owe anyone one). Make it funny. Diffuse the weirdness with humor!
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Tiffany · on September 20, 2019 at 8:13 PM
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We did it! We made a decision and booked it as of today! We are both so excited... thank you!
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