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Ehh, I wouldn’t say it’s rude not to invite them but do you have to have the brothers at the wedding? Like are y’all close close? Do you have a relationship with them?

I would invite all of them (plus their partners) or none. If you leave one out, it would be very weird and obvious why. But I agree with Imani that unless you're BFF with the brothers, maybe just not inviting any of them is the way to go. How long ago was his wedding? Have you seen him or the brothers lately, or was this a high school friendship that has faded over the years?

It's not rude at all not too invite 1 of the brothers and I'm sure that she didn't even tho it didn't go very far. And you both put a stop to it and realize nothing was going to come of it. So just invite the other brothers and I'm sure that she still doesn't want him to come to your wedding. Even tho your just looking for your friend to attend your wedding. Its can be sticky or not. You can extend the invitation if he accepts or not you did as a friend.

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I'm honestly only really close to one of the brothers and his wife. We just saw each other a few weeks ago. They're the only ones I regularly hang out with. Should I just invite them?

View Quoted Comment Then maybe consider inviting them but not the others. IMO, it's less awkward to invite 1 and leave 2 out, than to invite 2 and leave just 1 out.

I'd just invite the one you're close to

I don’t think it’s rude at all, especially if you weren’t invited to their wedding. But as others have pointed out the reason why may be quite apparent to your friends and family - depends if you’re cool with that or not (maybe they already know!)

I would just invite the one brother and his wife if that's who you're closest with. If you feel you need to invite the second brother... then gotta invite the third and let him and his wife make the decision if they come or not.

Honestly I would invite him, what do you have to lose? Perhaps it will put the wife at ease and maybe you can have your friendship back now that she sees that you didn’t choose him as a husband

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That's a good idea. Honestly I was being a bit spiteful by not inviting him because they didn't invite me to their wedding. Maybe this can be a way to rebuild our friendship now that we'll both be married. Or at the very least, I'll know that I tried.

View Quoted Comment Yes at the end of the day your life will be blessed because of it.

Are these people current close friends? If there is no friendship, don’t invite them. The fact that you are friends with one doesn’t obligate you to invite all. Weddings are not a competition meaning that just because they didn’t invite you to theirs doesn’t mean it’s fair or reasonable to be spiteful and not invite them if you want them in attendance. Step back for a minute and ask yourself if your wedding will be improved on by them attending or if it won’t and go from there.

Just in case someone stumbles on this and wants to know what I did, I invited all 3. My post makes it seem like we met when we were kids and haven't seen each other much since then. All 3 of them are very much still in my life. I end up seeing/talking to them multiple times a year because we have mutual friends and work in the same industry. I really would love for them all to come because we have such a long and great history together. I was just being spiteful because it hurt my feelings I wasn't invited to one of their weddings.