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July 2020

Is this reasonable? Hair and makeup

Kam, on August 5, 2020 at 9:54 PM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 13

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You ladies have been great with feedback, this question is for a friend who is the MOH in an upcoming wedding.

The bride is still having a mini ceremony with immediate family and just the MOH/Best Man this September. The bride sent her a message last week telling her she expects her to pay to have her hair and makeup done for the ceremony this year and next year (my friend would be covering the cost, not the bride). She replied and said that she would only be able to pay for the services for one year and the bride has not spoken to her since after calling her a bad friend for not supporting her.
Brides- would you expect members of your bridal party to pick up the tab for 2 wedding celebrations?

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Latest activity by Maggie, on August 6, 2020 at 2:28 PM

Master September 2020
Jessica · on August 5, 2020 at 10:01 PM
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I wouldn’t expect my MOHs to pay for hair and make up for the one wedding we are having, they were welcome to if they wanted to, but both chose to do their own. If it’s mandatory, the etiquette is that the bride pays for it.
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VIP February 2020
Julie · on August 5, 2020 at 10:07 PM
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No way. Yes it's expected that a bridesmaid would need to cover certain amount (dress, hotel, travel) but if the bride REQUIRES that hair and makeup be done professionally (as opposed to giving the option with pricing info) then the BRIDE pays for it. Now your friend already agreed to pay for one event, but she definitely shouldn't pay for it twice. Yes covid sucks, and postponing sucks, but that doesn't give the bride any leeway to be rude and greedy to her "best friend" who she made MOH. Bride is being a bad friend.
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on August 5, 2020 at 10:10 PM
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No way! I didn't even require my girls to have professional services if they didn't want them. If she wants her to have her hair and makeup professionally done twice then she should pay for it otherwise she can deal with it.
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Super May 2021
Stacey · on August 5, 2020 at 10:13 PM
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No way. If the bride is requiring it, the bride pays for it. End of story.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on August 5, 2020 at 10:16 PM
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Nope. Not ok. If a bride is demanding professional hair and/or make up, she needs to pay for it. If she wants the bridesmaids to pay for the services, they have to be optional.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on August 5, 2020 at 10:18 PM
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I don’t think it’s ok either. I personally Don’t even wear make up so that to me would be kinda out of line
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Master October 2022
Jana · on August 5, 2020 at 10:21 PM
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If the bride requires it, then the bride pays the bill. If the bride is not willing to cover it and is not open for negotiation, reconsider being a bridesmaid. The bride is the bad friend for being petty, but could be a blessing in disguise in the end to have ties cut.
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Legend July 2022
Lisa · on August 5, 2020 at 10:40 PM
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I agree 100% with the previous comments. If hair/makeup is being required by the bride, the bride needs to cover the cost. If it's optional and the bridesmaid/maid of honor chooses to do it, then the bridesmaid/maid of honor pays for her own hair/makeup.
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Super October 2021
Ashley · on August 5, 2020 at 11:12 PM
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If it’s required, the bride pays. No one should be expected to get hair or makeup done, though. People have all sorts of reasons for not wanting to, and she has every right to say no. The bride is being unfair and showing a very poor understanding of etiquette. I wouldn’t pay for it twice, either.
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VIP June 2019
Hanna · on August 5, 2020 at 11:15 PM
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This is completely unreasonable! In fact, the bride should not even be 'requiring' your friend to pay for hair/makeup on one occasion, let alone two! I definitely agree with the PPs. If the bride is requiring professional hair and makeup, then the bride is obligated to cover the costs. This is basic etiquette and this bride is being absolutely unreasonable
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Master October 2020
Margaret · on August 6, 2020 at 7:57 AM
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If the Bride demands HMU, then the Bride should be responsible for fronting the cost.
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Devoted September 2020
Samantha · on August 6, 2020 at 8:44 AM
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So I was having a hair and make up person for my ceremony, reception is a different date, and I got the prices and sent it to them. Giving them the option they all said yes for the ceremony and I stated I would cover half the cost. My reception I don’t plan on paying to do my make up unless it’s family or friends doing it. So I wouldn’t expect them.
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VIP January 2019
Maggie · on August 6, 2020 at 2:28 PM
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It makes me so sad to read about demanding brides who place their "vision" above their friends' budgets and feelings. As if someone will be any less married, just because their attendants do their own hair and makeup!
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