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Is this normal?

#beautyandthebeard, on August 14, 2019 at 2:53 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I have just under 2 months until the day arrives. It is hard to explain, but I am starting to get an uneasy stomach when I think about my wedding day. I am pretty sure it is just nerves and stress. I love my fiance more then words can explain.

I know I have nerves when it comes to getting married in general due to my mom being divorced twice and just watching her second marriage fall apart. That's just me accepting the reality that stuff happens and people grow apart. I don't think that is what is causing this.

The actual wedding is. I have been the oh well kind of bride until now! When I found out family from across the country who I haven't seen in over 10 years are coming! When I find out all the people who are traveling to be here. I started to fear what if the wedding sucks and they regret the trip? I know it isn't the most extravagant wedding but we hope it is a blast.

Are these thoughts normal? Like I said I haven't felt this way until people started preparing the travel process, sent out our invites, and started getting the RSVP's back!

Thanks!

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Latest activity by Nicole, on August 15, 2019 at 9:44 AM

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2d Bride · on August 14, 2019 at 4:02 PM
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Really, don't worry about not having the most extravagant wedding. These people are your family. They are coming to celebrate a happy occasion with you. They are not going to be critiquing how lavish the centerpieces are.
I think the only time people criticize weddings that aren't extravagant is if the invitees are a bunch of casual acquaintances who come just because it's a night of free food and booze. People who love you will just be happy you've found love.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 14, 2019 at 4:42 PM
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I've had those moments where I wonder if my wedding will be considered inferior. I have to keep reminding myself that as long as I properly host everyone, it should be fine!
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#beautyandthebeard · on August 14, 2019 at 4:47 PM
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Thanks! It is hard to not compare to other weddings. I just really don't want it to be a dud!
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Gen · on August 14, 2019 at 5:27 PM
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Yes it’s normal. IMO the most important part of the day... the thing that makes your day truly wonderful... is the love between you and your husband, and the joy of being surrounded by so many other people who love you and want to celebrate you. We had a “fancy” wedding in a ballroom but seriously, if we had the exact same crowd and held our wedding by a dumpster wearing potato sacks and we still would’ve had an amazing day 😂 All the little details are fun to plan (until it’s not anymore lol) but when it comes down to it, they just DO NOT MATTER. It’s truly the people who make it special.
Serve food and drinks. Play fun music. Let yourself be emotional and genuine. Enjoy every moment. As long as all that happens, your guests will have the time of their lives (and so will you!)
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Nicole · on August 15, 2019 at 9:44 AM
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Oh no! Don't stress yourself like that! It will be beautiful because of all the people you and your fiance love the most will be in the same room having a great time. It's already worth the trip to them to come and see you get married
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