Is this common orrrr???

I have been coming to the same realization with my own sibling. Like PP said, I think people just get really caught up in their own lives and new relationships. I don't think siblings have to grow apart, but I think all relationships have an ebb and flow, and there are certain times in the sibling relationship where both of you (or one of you) will be so consumed in the "now life" that it's hard to maintain family relationships since they were founded in the "then life." If that makes any sense.

I'm sorry that this has been painful for you! I've noticed that all the brides on here eventually come to the realization that no one is as excited about their wedding as them and their FH. We all expect our families and friends to be over the moon and when they aren't, it kind of stinks. BUT that's what WeddingWire is for! Reaching out for people to be as EQUALLY excited and support you!

If you ever need someone to hype with you and get excited, feel free to message me! It's definitely not the same as building back the relationship with your sibling, but I am always excited to... well, get excited with people!

I was very close with my siblings growing up but life happens. People move, work, have relationships, friendships, or just have other responsibilities. People have their own lives. Now we mostly see each other on holidays or the few times a year we plan get togethers at our parents house. It doesn't mean that you all love each other any less...

I am so sorry and I get why you are hurt but I hate to say it then maybe they should not be in your wedding party. I do not feel something like this will make them come around if they do not want to. It sounds to me like up front your sister does not want to be MOH and that title deserves to go to someone that really supports you and can be there for you. Maybe just ask them if they just want to be guests. Also, family is not blood. Some of the people that have been more family to me are not blood related and I keep a good relationship with them.

Nobody is ever as excited as we are. It's just like everything else. You get really excited and happy about the thing, then the moment passes. Once you get closer to your date, they may start getting more interested and excited. You've got a ways to go! Good luck!

I am the oldest of 8. 5 of us are all in our 30s, my mom had us all close together. The other 3 are 16, 14, and 10. The 5 of us used to be really close, now that we're older, we have drifted apart. The other 3 are really close but that's cause their together all the time lol. I asked my sister, the 30 year old, to be my moh. she said yes and 2 weeks ago she said she can't. Most likely she's not going to come. But just know this is very common and don't feel bad. You are trying but there's going to be a time when you get tired and just let them be.

Its sad cause she knew about my wedding over a year ago. I kept asking her if she was going to make it. She kept saying yeah yeah i'll be there. My 16 year old sister had her quinceanera in oct. She kept saying she will come, to maybe, to she couldn't get off work. May i add, she went to vegas a few days after the party. So that is what's going on in my wedding. Same exact thing. She lives 6 hours away, but i'm like, just tell me yes or no, stop making me guess if you are. Family huh?

And thank you so much. Thats so sweet of you.

It happens to some degree for most I think. My mom's family is probably the only example I've seen of that not being true for all. She and her siblings talk regularly, even though my mom lived across the country from them for along time time. Right now her brother lives far away and is semi-estranged, along with one of her sisters causing unnecessary drama and estranging herself from her siblings. But mom is still very close to two of her sisters, and on good terms with another.

My dad is a TERRIBLE correspondent and rarely talks to any of his siblings unless they harass him repeatedly, though he and I talk semi-regularly.

My own brother and I were close when we were little, went through a really rough time when he was a teenager due to a variety of factors (our dad was not the greatest during this time, and I was dealing-poorly-with emotional trauma from then undisclosed and unknown molestation by a cousin, who happened to be my brother's best friend). It wasn't until we were both on our 20's, after I finally opened up about what our cousin had done and why I had acted the way I did when we were younger that he and I got closer again. Frankly, the fact that we finally resolved a lot of our differences and get to talking with each other semi-regularly (we lived on opposite sides of the country so in person visits were rare) is the only reason I didn't beat myself up with excessive guilt when he passed away very young.

I shared my own story with my brother to give an example of the fact that their emotional distance may have nothing to do with you, even though you're the one hurt by it now. There may be things you don't know that they didn't share for whatever reason (which sounds likely given your mention of not having a good relationship with your father - there may be more to their experiences with them than you know) and that could be affecting their interactions with you.

I don't know that there's much you can really do about it, other than continuing to reach out and hoping that someday they will be able to have an open/honest conversation about why things have been they way they have been. I'm sorry you're hurting. Is there a friend you could add to your bridal party to hopefully be more supportive since your sister isn't?