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Just Said Yes May 2021

Is this awkward?

Elizabeth, on April 23, 2021 at 7:12 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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We had our wedding date set for 4/26/2020. Due to the pandemic we postponed to May 22nd 2021. We ended up signing the marriage license back in May 2020 Incase the sickness took one of us.. we had no family or friends with us, and did not even celebrate. We let everyone know, and that we still planned on having a ceremony and reception to make the memories we dreamed about.

Now, almost a month away from the event.. I feel very insecure about putting on my poofy wedding dress and acting like a bride when I've been married almost a year. As well as, concern people will not understand but are too polite to inform me that it is weird to have the wedding now.
So long story short.. should I just forget the ceremony and dress and just have a party? (Outdoor and covid friendly of course)

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Latest activity by Kelli, on April 24, 2021 at 9:06 PM

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Melanie · on April 23, 2021 at 7:20 PM
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In terms of people being concerned about the ceremony, I think they will understand how difficult it is to do one during the pandemic. I know my cousin has had to push his wedding back like 3 times already because of it. I think it all depends on how important the wedding "memories" are for you. I've heard about some people recreate their wedding while others just has a party. I would consult with your fiancé as well as your super close family members about what to do. If you don't feel comfortable putting the dress back on, you don't have to. At the end of the day, the most important thing is celebrating your marriage.
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Katie · on April 23, 2021 at 7:25 PM
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Hi Elizabeth! Everyone deserves their special day and I don’t think it’s awkward at all! Weddings have a sneaky way of testing every single insecurity we have. With the year we all had, any reason to safely celebrate and bring joy is the right thing to do 😉❤️ Hope you enjoy your wedding celebration!!
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Elizabeth · on April 23, 2021 at 7:44 PM
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Katie, Melanie, thank you both so much for you reply, it has helped.
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Devoted June 2020
Victoria · on April 23, 2021 at 8:03 PM
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I got married last June and am holding the reception this June
It’s not weird to me! I’m wearing a dress and taking my formal photos this year too. I’m not too worried about the guests looking nice though lol. I want it to be relaxed
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Natalie · on April 23, 2021 at 9:02 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with having both your ceremony and reception this year. While you may have technically been married a year ago, it was done out of a place of fear of the unthinkable. You deserve to have the full wedding experience!
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Hannah · on April 23, 2021 at 9:08 PM
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So many couples have had to do exactly what you did. You and your spouse deserve your special da wear that poofy dress, say those vows, and celebrate the wedding day you deserve. If anyone has a problem with it, that is on them.
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Kas · on April 24, 2021 at 12:36 AM
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I don’t think it’s awkward one bit. Signing a pice of paper is not the part anyone really focuses on, on the big day, it’s all about having your loved ones around you declaring your everlasting love for one another. Which you never really got to do so I say do the ceremony and then party it up.
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Elizabeth · on April 24, 2021 at 11:25 AM
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Not weird at all, live your dream! As long as your guests know you're legally married it's fine
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Michelle Online · on April 24, 2021 at 12:34 PM
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You would be having a renewal of vows, which is not weird. It would come across as awkward/offensive if you called it your actual wedding, which has long passed. Especially if family/friends know you have been married this entire time. If they are under the assumption that you are not legally married at this time, they will find out and be angry they were lied to. Be prepared for the fallout of that.
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Mrs.a · on April 24, 2021 at 2:06 PM
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No it’s not weird. Couples do it all the time, and even more so now due to Covid. I’m looking forward to it having our vow renewal and reception in the fall.
My mom seems to be trying to talk it down such as when I went dress shopping. She thought I should go for something simpler for a vow renewal, but I went for something simple for our minimony, so I want to go all out for this. I think it’s just as special as our wedding was, if not more.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Elizabeth · on April 24, 2021 at 5:06 PM
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I'd like to thank you all for the support and sharing your thoughts, experiences, and advice. It really helped pull me out of my negative brain space.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Dana · on April 24, 2021 at 5:34 PM
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I went through something similar as we eloped in May and are having our Covid postponed ceremony and reception this May. I felt the same exact way. It’s absolutely silly that a year into it I’m gonna put on my dress and marry my husband. I felt super dumb at first. But then I remembered that we deserve our time in the spotlight. It took me a little while to get into the swing of planning again. But I have finally allowed myself to get back into the excited feeling I had before Covid shut us down.

Do what you are comfortable with. But remember that you and your significant other are important to your friends and family and they would love to see you and celebrate you.
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Mrs.a · on April 24, 2021 at 8:44 PM
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You’re very welcome!
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Kelli · on April 24, 2021 at 9:06 PM
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Weddings are considered the day you choose to celebrate with family and friends. In many states people are married the day they get their marriage license and celebrate with the white dress and party days after. Some are days later and some are a year later. No difference! Enjoy your wedding day!!!!!
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