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Just Said Yes January 2020

Is there a way to add an early rsvp option on our save the dates without it looking tacky?

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Chelsie, on March 19, 2019 at 12:30 AM

I want to avoid have to purchase extra invitations so I thought maybe adding an early rsvp on our save the dates would help with that. The thing with that is, we want to avoid parents rsvping their children as well as they will not be added when we send out the invitations, ie. their invitation will read, “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor”. That which does not include their children that they tried to rsvp previously. Will this cause unwanted conflict? Help!

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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on March 19, 2019 at 11:37 AM
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I just wouldn't send save the dates if you are wanting to save money.
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Expert October 2019
Krystin · on March 19, 2019 at 11:46 AM
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We are doing the reserved seats as well to avoid guests arriving with a litter of children. MY FEAR is that "dad" can't go, so "mom" brings her bratty 4 year old in his place. I want to put "adults-only" on the details card but my mom shot that down. I would say just save yourself the trouble and don't bother with the early RSVP unless you label your envelopes specifically to those whom are invited instead of sending STD's to the entire "Smith Family." If you have your entire guest list on WW, if you add your website to your STD's, they can go online and RSVP there but only for who is added on the list. Joseph and Mary won't be able to RSVP their 19 kids and counting if said children are not on YOUR list Happy planning!
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Just Said Yes September 2021
Melanie · on July 2, 2021 at 11:06 AM
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I agree… I’ve never heard of sending a save the date card to someone who is not invited :-). I recently saw an article someplace that gave instructions on Waze to add an RSVP to the save the date… I’m actually looking for it now which is how I ran across the string and conversation. We are having a small wedding and Quick turnaround from save the date to actual date :-) so, I want to find out who definitely won’t be able to attend because of the date so that I can then send a save the date to alternate people on our list.
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Just Said Yes June 2024
Heather · on January 23, 2023 at 9:34 PM
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Hi there! I love this idea and want to make sure I make a website (for my sisters wedding) where guests will have that pop up. Can you share with me what wedding website you used?
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Savvy May 2023
Brooke_Frhlich · on January 26, 2023 at 11:30 AM
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Our wedding website was included on the save the date, and I just added an RSVP option on the website. Some people have used it, some haven't. But then it's there as an option instead of a request!
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Just Said Yes August 2024
Sofia · on July 9, 2023 at 9:13 PM
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I'm not getting married but planning my daughter's Sweet 16 and I have a B list which would be more of my daughter's friends.
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Just Said Yes October 2024
Paige · on September 19, 2023 at 9:57 PM
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What site/service did you use?
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Just Said Yes June 2026
Marisa · on January 28, 2025 at 8:27 AM
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Love this idea! What website did you use?
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