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Rachael
Savvy September 2018

Is there a "too soon" to do save the dates?

Rachael, on August 5, 2017 at 10:37 AM

Posted in Planning 30

We have the date, venue, dj, officiant, photographer, florist all booked. Our date isn't until fall 2018. Is there a time that's too soon to send out save the dates? Have people coming from out of state (Florida, Illinois, Arizona, Pennsylvania). Some are asking that I send something out as soon as...

We have the date, venue, dj, officiant, photographer, florist all booked. Our date isn't until fall 2018. Is there a time that's too soon to send out save the dates? Have people coming from out of state (Florida, Illinois, Arizona, Pennsylvania). Some are asking that I send something out as soon as possible so everyone can plan (lots of planners in the family). Is it tacky to send an email before the formal save the dates go out?

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  • FilleNouvelle
    Expert April 2018
    FilleNouvelle ·
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    I did 10 months for our destination wedding happening in Europe. Everyone seems to be fine with it...haven't heard of anyone saying they wish they had known sooner.

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  • K
    VIP May 2025
    KRAIN ·
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    I sent mine 10 months in advanced.

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  • AprilR
    VIP May 2018
    AprilR ·
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    I would wait. About 80% of our guests are OOT and we just sent our out two days ago. They can't book any flights this early so sending them out still doesn't do much planning. If they need the date for taking time off, let VIPs know and wait until about 8-10 months out to send STD

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  • chelsey
    Super March 2018
    chelsey ·
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    I sent save the dates last week so 7 months out for us.

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  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
    Melissa ·
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    We did ours 10 months in advance and I found it was perfect timing

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  • Faith
    Savvy August 2018
    Faith ·
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    I think a year is more than enough time. We have people trying to come from 5 continents (we travel ALOT and I have lived on 3 continents) we will be sending them out 11 months before. When people ask we tell them but too soon can cause issues in my oppinon

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  • Jane38
    VIP September 2018
    Jane38 ·
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    I'm getting married one week before you, and I'm playing around with STD designs now. But I'm not planning on sending them out until mid Feb 2018 after the holidays. That would put us about 7 months out which I think is plenty of time. (And most of our guests are OOT - 4 are out of the country.) Most people know our date already so the STD is really not super necessary actually. But hey, we paid for engagement photos lol

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  • S
    Dedicated October 2019
    Sarah ·
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    We aren't doing save the dates. We'll use our engagement photos for the thank you cards. I did tell people on Facebook messenger to save the date.

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  • July18Bride
    Super September 2022
    July18Bride ·
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    I think a phone call to the people that you really really want there and are concerned about would be appropriate just to give them a heads up. My friends did this with us and I was happy about it. We still got an std with wedding website info and location and what not. Especially if you are doing photograph stds its still nice to send them out even if youve already told your guests because many family members might loke to have a photo of you guys anyway.

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  • Maria
    VIP March 2016
    Maria ·
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    Once they are sent you are stuck with that guest list, a lot can change between now and then, I mean some people we thought we'd invite we decided not too when we were cutting numbers. We didn't do STDs but told all of our families and close friends about the date. My cousin is getting married in Dec three hours drive for us. They didn't do STDs either, but we were told about the date. Also got a text last week saying that as we were travelling a discounted room was reserved in the hotel we just have to confirm with the hotel by a certain date if we want it or not or it's is released on sale again. an invite will follow at the appropriate time for that wedding.

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