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Just Said Yes October 2017

Is skipping father/daughter dance ok?

Audra, on September 25, 2017 at 12:43 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 15

So my dad is not a dancer and frankly neither am I. If we skip the father daughter dance, but my fiance, who also hates dancing, does a mother son dance will this seem too odd? My dad would do it if I pushed, but I think we would both be incredibly uncomfortable and this is really starting to stress me out. The wedding is October 13 and this, so far, has been the most stressful thing to think about.

I know I hate weddings where you just want to get up and dance but you're stuck watching a bunch of special dances. Maybe no one will notice???

Thanks!

15 Comments

Latest activity by Diana, on September 25, 2017 at 1:52 PM
  • Ginggotthering
    Devoted August 2018
    Ginggotthering ·
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    You could skip it if that is what you would like. Another option is to have your first dance upon being introduced, then during meals you can do father/daughter and/or mother/son. You wouldn't be taking away from people dancing then.

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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
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    I think it's fine

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  • the_m_series
    Dedicated May 2018
    the_m_series ·
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    Probably no one will notice, or care. I'm in a similar situation where my dad doesn't like to dance, but I do. Why stress needlessly about something so trivial?

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    DH and his mom felt similarly to you about doing the mother-son dance, but my dad and I really wanted to do a father-daughter dance. We did our first dance, did the father-daughter dance, and then opened up the dance floor. DH and his mom were a lot happier.

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  • A
    Just Said Yes October 2017
    Audra ·
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    Thank you! I know I'm making more of it than I should. Guess I need to stress about something. Lol

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  • Jaci
    Expert April 2018
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    I don't think it's a big deal to skip it, it's your day and people might not really notice. I am doing a mother-daughter dance instead of father daughter, myself. It's whatever you prefer.

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  • Mwe
    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Mwe ·
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    Its yo' wedding. Do whatcha want!

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  • Sarah
    Devoted May 2018
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    Absolutely. I'm skipping it..and fiance is still going to dance with his Mom and Step-Mom. I am all about making the wedding comfortable for everyone. My Dad will be as uncomfortable as me, just walking me down the aisle(we don't like being the center of attention). He doesn't need to dance too.

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  • FutureMrsM
    Devoted January 2018
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    Skip it.

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  • A
    Just Said Yes October 2017
    Audra ·
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    Sarah K I'm with you...hate being the center of attention. Even opening gifts at my shower was a struggle. I get so nervous. I'm freaking out about the ceremony. Saying very personal vows with even just immediate family, which is what we're doing, is terrifying. I plan on simple vows and a personal note to my fiance that morning.

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  • Elaine
    Devoted October 2018
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    I think it is perfectly fine. Do whatever you want. I will not be doing a father/daughter dance, we aren't close but FH will be dancing with his mom.

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  • Mj
    Devoted June 2019
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    Do what you want! It wouldn't be odd though if you did it like that

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  • Victoria
    Savvy June 2018
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    I didn't want to do it either but my dad really wanted it, so I gave in. We are very close so it did not seem worth hurting his feelings. If you and your dad both agree it's not for you, don't do it. I don't think anyone will care and if they do, it's not their wedding!

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  • Amanda
    Savvy September 2017
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    Trust me, I wanted to skip my dance too. My father passed away so I'm dancing with my mom - not to a normal song no that would be tooo boring, but to the Time Warp FML. She's helped out a lot and as much as I do not want to do this I'm doin it for her.

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  • Diana
    Expert October 2017
    Diana ·
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    I think it's totally fine to skip it. At my best friend's wedding, she didn't do a first dance with her husband or a father-daughter dance, and her husband didn't do a mother-son dance. They all just felt super awkward about it so they decided not to torture themselves haha.

    I am doing a father-daughter dance with my dad and I assumed FH would do one with his mom, but when he brought it up to her she had a deer-in-the-headlights look like, she would feel so awkward and overly emotional about it. He was so relieved because he is not a dancer and really didn't want to do one lol. No reason to suffer through it just because it is a tradition!

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