Is my wedding too close to my bff's?

Wow, my friend and I got engaged around the same time and we wanted our weddings a week apart so we could buy decorations together and ping pong ideas off one another. Honestly hun, you don't have to explain yourself. You already told her your valid reasons and you just would like her support like she has yours. Your weddings are far apart as it is. Is she that jealous/petty/intimidated she would put a rift in a friendship?

Is she your maid of honor? If not I don't see how it would be too much. This is an opportunity to help each other and bounce ideas off each other to make it a perfect day and relieve some stress.

Why would y'all's wedding dates even be an issue? It's not like they are on the same day. I get brides wanting all of the attention, but come on...can't we all just be excited for everyone. She needs to get over it. As long as your wedding and her wedding aren't on the same weekend, then there is no issue here. I have a good friend's wedding 2 months before mine, FH's cousin's wedding the weekend before mine, a good friend's wedding the weekend after mine, and FH's cousin's wedding 2 months after mine. Oh, AND FH's brother got married this past September. I have no ill feelings towards any of these people and their weddings, and plan to attend every single one. I am just happy for everyone!

As said by pp's, even the 7 weeks was fine! I could see her getting miffed if she thought you were playing the "rush to be married first" game, but that's not your intention. Honestly, if she's not going to believe you, don't try to convince her. It will just turn it into a bigger deal. Give her some space, be a friend, and hopefully it will blow over soon enough.

I understand what you are saying and how you may be feeling. My fiance and I picked our wedding date even before we got engaged just because it's a date we both love, we knew we were getting engaged within a year or two and it was just something we discussed. My best friend knew about this. She had known since we were little kids that I've always wanted an October wedding. Well, her fiance proposed in November and mine proposed in January (it's just how it worked out) and she picked the exact Saturday before the date we picked. Part of me felt I should change my date but then also I felt like I shouldn't have to because we had chosen that date over a year before. At first I was upset with her, we discussed things once I calmed down and thought about things and I told her I just don't think we would be able to work out being each others maid of honors because so much will be going on. To try to make an already long story short, my best friend and I are getting married a week apart and personally we are not having any issues about it. I would say just talk with her about it and tell her exact how you feel, in the end you should both just be happy for each other.

I don't think there is anything wrong with your decision to have YOUR wedding when you want to. 7 weeks is plenty of time. I could see maybe two weeks or one week apart. But 7 weeks? Your wedding will be over before her bach party.....I think she is being a bit petty.

I think it's great that you're meeting up to talk it out. But you need to hold firm. You chose "x" date because that's what worked best for you and FH and your aunt who is helping. Assure her that you will still be able to help her with planning and that any of her wedding events will still be 100% about her.

You do not owe her an explanation. Period. You chose your date for your reasons. You have no need to "justify" them to anyone - AT ALL.

Plus, it's 11 weeks. Not 11 days. Even 7 weeks is fine. 11 weeks is almost 3 full months. There are people that have planned entire weddings in that span. While I think it's great you're willing to calm her nerves or whatever, you do NOT owe her ANYTHING.

Good luck!

Your friend is being ridiculous. I was married 3 weeks after my bridesmaid (who I consider a sister) and she was fine with it. We had two very different weddings and it worked out fine. She got engaged months before me but I was with my now husband for a lot longer. We both wanted to get married in the fall but didn't want to wait years to do it. So she booked her venue and planned her wedding, as did I.

11 weeks is more than enough time for that, especially considering she won't (or shouldn't) be planning her shower and bachlorette party.