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Beginner October 2024

Is my name change idea weird?

Elizabeth, on October 13, 2024 at 1:07 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 2
Long story, but my maiden name is neither my mom or dad’s last name, rather, my mom’s ex husband’s name from before she met and married my dad. I’ve never liked this because, while I love them, I don’t have a very strong connection to that side of the family. Also worth mentioning, I never had a relationship with my dad before he died.


I was recently married, and I like the tradition of honoring my side of the family by changing my middle name to my maiden name and taking my husband’s last name.
Given that my maiden name isn’t a connection to my bio family, I want to change my middle name to my mom’s current last name which is her maiden name (only a 3 letter difference from my current middle name).
I realize it’s somewhat unusual, but given the circumstances, I don't think it’s all that weird. My mom acted like it was the dumbest idea she had ever heard. I was honestly pretty taken aback by her response to the idea. Is this a totally weird idea and I’m just not seeing it?

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Latest activity by Andrea, on October 16, 2024 at 10:17 PM
  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    It seems if you have grown up in such a confusing situation, you should select the name that best suits you (from your perspective). Your description was a bit confusing, but it seems there were three last names you were surrounded by.

    The problem with the selection of the middle name may just be that the regular name change process for married couples may restrict what you use for your middle name. Then you would have to do the name change through the court. So check what is necessary and easiest.

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    Super January 2024
    Andrea ·
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    I would double-check the law where you are. In many places, if you do anything but change the last name or put your current maiden as a middle name, they consider it a regular name change and you have to go through the regular filing process instead of the simpler marriage one.


    I admit it’s a little odd to me to change your middle name to a maiden name you’ve never used, but if the connection to your mom’s name really matters to you, it’s not crazy. Although is there some reason you don’t want to just keep your current middle name? Your mom may be seeing it more as you rejecting the name she chose for you instead of honoring her.
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