Is it wrong to have Bridesmaids and groomsmen pay for their own attire?

I'm having mine pay for their dresses and when choosing I kept that in mind. the dress i chose for them was $120. They will be able to choose their own shoes as long as they are a nude sandal. I am paying 1/2 of their makeup and hair if they choose to get it done, but I am not making them do that.

Depends on what you and your FH want to do. There's no"rule".

It depends on the cultural norm where you live. In the USA and Canada, members of the wedding party usually pay for their own outfits. In the UK the bride and groom pay.

No one is ever going to complain if the bride buys the dresses, cultural norm or not.

If you are going to ask them to buy their dress, you need to have a private conversation with each BM to determine a price point they are comfortable with. Then you find a dress that the one with the lowest budget can afford.

Usually they pay for their own.

Most bridesmaids buy their own dress, but if you want hair and makeup, that's a cost the bride should take care of. That being said, I feel bad for making FH's groomsmen buy their own attire. I don't know why... Most of the time they can just rent a suit/tux but of course what I want to do, you can't rent.

I think if you pay for one, you're going to have to pay for the other, but the bridal party expects to pay for their attire I assume.

I've always paid for my own.

Mine pay for their own, I've always paid when I was a BM. Luckily I won a Kennedy blue contest and thus three of my BM are free - so my 6 bms will only have to pay 90 a gown as opposed to 180 (aside from tailoring). I have one brides man and was pretty flexible with him, but he said he'd rather wear the same color (slate) as the bridesmaids and that he would wear a suit that color again so he didn't mind purchasing one. (Reasonably. We are looking at Express, they are pretty affordable.)

I am letting them all wear shoes and jewelry of their own choosing as long as the shoes are silver, and I'm gifting them their hair day of, all though they can chose whatever style they want. Since my bridesman isn't getting his hair done I think I'll buy him a tie, pocket square, dress socks, and cufflinks as a gift. Oh! And I'm giving the girls vintage style silver combs for their hair but they weren't expensive at all- I think like $7 each.

All in all most people expect to pay for their attire when they agree to be in your party. And nowadays there are lots of way to cut costs (popular dresses can easily be found on eBay in great condition, having only been worn once!) As long as you aren't crazy and demanding they buy $300 gowns I don't think anyone will mind.

My bridal party are paying for their own dresses.

Because there is a particular suit my FH wants his groomsmen to wear and it is only available to buy (not rent), he is paying for the difference it would cost to buy versus renting the suits. The groomsmen pay the renting cost but gets a suit out of it.

It's normally expected that if you are asked to be in a wedding you wear whatever you're told to wear and you pay for it. I choose cheap dresses for my BMs because I know they can't afford an expensive dress. We bought the ties for our GM as a gift (we'll also be adding something with that as their gift ) and we bought the dress for the flower girl with the understanding that we'd like to keep the dress for our future children/memorie chest. As has been said there is not rule.

In the US, the etiquette related to wedding parties hasn't changed in decades.

The wedding party realizes, the day they are extended this gesture of honor, that they will be responsible for absorbing the costs of whatever garment the bride wants them to wear. On the other side of the aisle, the GM understand that they will probably be renting tuxes. vests. shirts, ties, and shoes, and those expenses belong to the GM, not the groom

It can a little tricky with the ladies. Some brides want their honor attendants to wear a certain color shoe. If the bride doesn't own that color shoe, it is the responsibility of the bride to pay for the shoes, or she accepts the fact that the BM will wear something from her own closet. Some brides insist that their attendants have their hair and make-up done by a professional of the bride's choosing. If that's the case, the bride pays for those services.

That's it.

Me and my groom are paying for everything

Mines paid for there dress but I also gave a cash gift thanking them for participating

My bridal party are paying for their own outfits, can wear any shoe that's nude or gold (guys in tan/brown family). They are paying for their own hair and makeup as it's not required, but I'm paying for their tips. I've always paid for my own dresses, hair & make up when I was in weddings.

It is typical for the BP to pay for their own attire. If you are wanting specific shoes, hair, make-up, or jewelry then you should pay for it. If it is in your budget you can pay for everything but it isn't necessary.

Usually doesn't matter, as long as you keep their budgets in mind!

My BM are paying for their own dresses but I took into account how much they wanted to pay. As long as they wear closed toe black shoes, they can wear whatever they want. I also plan on paying for their hair and their jewelry.

I am paying for my bridesmaids' dresses, because 2 of them were between jobs when I asked them to be bridesmaids and the dress I wanted was not cheap ($180). It also seemed like a nice thing to do! They can wear whatever shoes they like. Hair and makeup optional. I will probably buy them jewelry (they will be free to wear whatever they like.)

They pay for dresses and suits. You pay for specific shoes, jewelry, makeup and hair.

Yes, it's normal to have them pay for their own attire

I think it's more common that they pay for themselves. A lot of people Suggest talking to each bridesmaid and groomsman individually to figure it a budget that works for everyone.