Is it wrong for me to be upset?

Your best friend is lucky she got a date next September with weddings and vendors booked through next year. You should be happy for your friend. If you have to move your honeymoon, move it.

First of all, I completely understand your position. I think I would also be disappointed under the circumstances. However, the pandemic really screwed things up for couples. There really aren’t many dates available in 2023, and that may have been the only one your friend could secure. The day may also hold significance for her. Or perhaps it was the only date she could find in the Fall. Whatever the reasoning, I would give your friend the benefit of the doubt and just try to be happy for her and enjoy getting to plan one of the biggest moments of your life alongside your friend.

I would give your friend the benefit of the doubt. There's a whole other half to the couple, and that date may have worked best for both families. You share overlapping best friends who can make their own decision to attend one or both. Same with the groomsmen. His involvement in her wedding shouldn't affect yours in any way. You get your date, she gets hers.

I'm of the opinion that a couple gets one day. People go to multiple weddings all the time, sometimes without the bride or groom's knowledge because it's not someone in their social circle. I honestly don't think it was wrong of her to book her wedding the weekend after yours. It's understandable to be upset if someone can't make it to one of the weddings because they can only afford 1 to attend, but at the end of the day that's the personal decision of the guests. When we invite guests, we hope they come and share in our joy, but it is ultimately up to those people to decide if they will attend or not, and people decline for a variety of reasons. Also, if the groomsmen agreed to be in both weddings, then they are aware of the choice they made to be in 2 weddings 2 weeks in a row. I'm not sure what your budget has to do with this issue. Whether you spent $1 or a million dollars on the wedding, it's still a one day event (unless for cultural reasons it extends beyond that)

You get a day. That's it. Congratulate your friend and enjoy your wedding.

All I have to say is that this post sounds very spoiled. No need to flex the fact that you spent a fortune on your wedding to talk about your best friends wedding date, but ok. You don't own the week, or month around your wedding. She can get married whenever she wants, and the only time you should be upset about a chosen date is if it is

1. on the same day as your wedding

2. the day after your wedding, as guests and friends likely will leave yours early to accommodate for two weddings in a row.

Sounds like you guys are competing with each other, I would address that.

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I agree with this 100%

If that's the date she picked then so be it, if you are unable to attend....then don't. Hope it works out for you. With a million dollar budget we would love to see your wedding pics💜

Sorry, but as long as they did not pick your exact date, there’s nothing wrong with what they did. A couple does not own the week, month, year, or whichever around their date, just the day itself. I’d highly recommend you apologize to her and express congratulations on her chosen date.

If it's not the same weekend, I am not understanding the problem here? Why can't people go to two weddings in two consecutive weekends...

It doesn't really matter how much you're spending. The next weekend should be doable for everyone, it's not like they booked the next day.

I can understand your frustration. My fear in your position would be that our friend groups may need to pick one wedding or the other to attend and that can be a major bummer. If your reasoning for being upset is not this reason then I believe you might want to take a moment and see what is really upsetting you. You will need to analyze this and see if it is something worth risking your friendship over.