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Is it weird to not have corsages?

Haley, on August 19, 2020 at 2:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

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Hi all!
So I’m planning on only having my bridesmaids and myself have bouquets, no corsages. Then having boutonnières for my groom and the groomsmen. I recently found out that it’s kind of a tradition to also provide corsages/boutonnières for close family members. I personally don’t want to do that as I’m trying to cut down costs where I can. I really don’t want to go out of my way to find One outside of my florist or make DIY ones for them either. Unless someone else decides they’d like to volunteer to cover the cost of them, I don’t see it being a priority to get them. Is anyone else wanting to do something similar?

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Latest activity by Annika, on August 21, 2020 at 10:37 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on August 19, 2020 at 2:35 PM
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No, it's not weird.
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Super May 2021
Stacey · on August 19, 2020 at 2:36 PM
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I've never seen the bride and bridesmaids wear corsages if that's what you mean? That would seem like a lot along with the bouquets. Some people do give corsages/boutonnieres to immediate family members, but that is totally optional and a great place to save some money!
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Savvy May 2023
Haley · on August 19, 2020 at 2:38 PM
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Yes, I’ve also never seen corsages at a wedding before! Only at prom haha. The bouquets will be super nice so I think that will make up for not having one. Thank you for the input!!
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Beginner September 2022
Alyssa · on August 19, 2020 at 2:50 PM
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We thought about doing them, but then ended up not because I think it’s unnecessary. Between the two of us we’ve got so many parents/step parents/grandparents that it was adding up to a lot and we were worrying about leaving anyone out. So we just decided to skip it 😌
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Devoted August 2020
Tara · on August 19, 2020 at 2:51 PM
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We are skipping this also 😊
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Expert July 2022
Jmz · on August 19, 2020 at 2:51 PM
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No I don't think people worry about those things anymore! My SIL DIY-ed the florals so she just used some of the leftover flowers to do a mini bouquet for our grandmother. If you have a florist then that's another thing. Don't worry about it!
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Master October 2022
Jana · on August 19, 2020 at 3:08 PM
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Parents and grandparents of the couple are the only ones who receive corsages/bouts. It's totally ok to skip them.
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Expert August 2020
Angel · on August 19, 2020 at 3:10 PM
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I'm doing the same thing! Boutonnieres for the groom and groomsmen - and no corsages for anyone.
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Master July 2018
Mcskipper · on August 19, 2020 at 3:13 PM
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Nope, we had bouquets for the bride and bridesmaids and boutineers for groom and groomsmen , but no flowers for anyone else. Wasn’t strange and no one had any sort of reaction. I asked the moms if they cared and both said no, so I just didn’t bother — I feel like those are the only opinions that mattered there; if it had been important to them, I would’ve gone out of my way to do it for them.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on August 19, 2020 at 3:17 PM
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I think it is fine to skip those
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Savvy January 2021
Rachel · on August 19, 2020 at 3:19 PM
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I’m skipping this as well! Neither of our parents are helping with any costs and I feel I don’t need to go out of my way to pay for the extra expense. Honestly, I don’t really think it’s much of a thing anymore!
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Super October 2020
Eri · on August 19, 2020 at 3:21 PM
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We're doing corsages for my mom/grandmothers, but they're pretty affordable so it was a no-brainer to include them. I wouldn't think anything of people skipping them, though!
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Expert September 2020
· on August 19, 2020 at 3:31 PM
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Not weird. We skipped them. They’re expensive and any flowers you buy will likely only last one day so not really a point in spending so much on them
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October 2020
Fleur · on August 19, 2020 at 3:42 PM
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We are doing corsages & bouts for parents and grandparents since it's something I really want to do! On a side note, my cousin got married last year and purchased super cute posies for the mothers/grandmothers. After the ceremony I randomly noticed that 2 of the 3 women left theirs behind in the Church (saw the Church personnel cleaning up and take them away lol). So totally not a priority.
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Dedicated June 2021
Leonardia · on August 19, 2020 at 3:57 PM
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We are actually skipping the boutonnieres for the groomsmen, he has 9 groomsmen and he always hates how they get crushed in weddings he's been in. Instead of the tradition corsage we are doing floral wrist cuffs for the mothers and bridesmaids lol. Opted out of doing bouquets for the women because I wanted to spend money on the decorations more...and I low key get annoyed at how most bridesmaids tend to hold them walking down the aisle and in pictures lol
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Super September 2020
Leanne · on August 19, 2020 at 5:35 PM
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We are doing (4) wrist corsages for: both mothers, my aunt who I’m very close with and my vocalist who I am close friends with. (6) Lapel corsages for the groom, bestman, both fathers, and both ushers.

Of course you don’t have to do all that, but I think bare minimum the moms should get one. It’s a big day for them too. Just my opinion, there’s no wrong answer here.
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Rachel · on August 19, 2020 at 6:12 PM
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This seems to be a tradition that’s fading away. We didn’t do these for our wedding and I can’t remember a wedding I’ve been to in the last decade that did this. I guess it is possible someone did it but as a guest I didn’t even notice. I can’t imagine they cost much to add to your budget, but I know that every dollar matters, so leave em out! 🙂
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Super October 2021
Ashley · on August 19, 2020 at 6:31 PM
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I’ve only ever seen corsages go to the moms and grandmothers, never the bridesmaids because they have bouquets.
We are skipping them entirely. The pin on ones poke holes in the fabric and can weigh it down and the wrist ones get in the way. My mom hates them, too.
We are also skipping boutonnières because my fiancé doesn’t like them or want to have one. It definitely helps with the budget. Boutonnières and cordages tend to be a little more than people think since they need to be made sorta last minute and don’t have a water source.
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Dedicated October 2020
Amanda · on August 19, 2020 at 6:33 PM
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Originally we weren’t doing any type of floral for the moms but in the end I decide I wanted them to each have a really tiny bouquet because they deserved something. I don’t think it’s weird at all skipping the corsage, my mom just randomly asked if she got flowers so I decide to give them something since she is paying. Nobody else besides my bridesmaid will get any florals. I personally hate corsages, they remind me of high school prom, always get in the way, and look terrible by the end of the night.
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Dedicated July 2020
Jessica · on August 19, 2020 at 6:40 PM
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Not weird. Doubt anyone will even notice. I think it's kind of an old fashioned concept.
Corsages tend to get smushed and look terrible more so than boutinneres (I never spell that right) because they're near hands. They're also redundant to bridesmaid bouquets if you are having those.
EDIT: I only ever realized there were wrist corsages, didn't know there were other options! Only ever had wrist corsages for school dances *shudder*
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