Is it to late to send out Engagement Announcement

I'd skip it. If you send Christmas cards, you might put a note in there, but otherwise save your money. ETA: We called (or parents called) and told the people we were closest to and then made an announcement on FB.

I do like your idea on the Christmas card, mainly for the fact my parents aren't thrilled at the prospect of telling anyone I got engaged, so I can't go by word of mouth.

Not entirely sure, besides the fact that they don't know my Fiancee that well...

It sounds as if you aren't that close with your family. Don't send out engagement announcements to people you don't plan on inviting to the wedding.

How old are you? My extended family didn’t know my H very well at all when we got engaged because we had a quick courtship and a long distance relationship. Both his parents and my parents were elated and word of mouth spread quickly. But I think should be skipped due to social media. Your parents won’t be any more thrilled that you sent a card over personally telling anyone. Which honestly was just weird for me to type out, that is so strange.

We are both still pretty young, my Fiancee had been taking care of his father and spend a lot of time with him (bestest of friends) and was not able to come see my family much, his father was really sick. And they dont to seem to understand. He is this year now as his father recently passed and trying to make up for time but I do plan on invitng them to the wedding.

We are not getting married right away, we are going to wait a year till we plan the wedding as I am also thinking they are not happy that we are moving to a new state.

I don't think they are necessary. I think they are quite pointless. Save the money for your save the dates.

I wouldn't announce the engagement if your parents don't approve. I would wait and let them get to know FH.

Skip it.

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How old is "pretty young"?

24 years old, sorry at work

You could send out a save the date as an engagement announcement, however that may make people feel like they missed the memo you were ever engaged. I agree with PP's that a phone call, text or some kind of direct message is much better for family and close friends, social media for everyone else.

I wouldn't say that 24 is pretty young. I was expecting you to say 17 or 18. Is there a way for your family to meet your FH?

Most, if not all, my family does not use social media. I just have a hard time trying to figure out how to tell everyone, instead of an awkward phone call of "hey, I'm engaged......ok bye" so yea

Would it be poor etiquette to tell everyone Christmas eve?

24 is really not that young. I was only 25 when I was engaged and later married. My parents met him exactly twice before we got engaged, though there was some email correspondence going on. And we had a short engagement and I moved to a new country. If they were to tell me not to tell anyone because no one knew him very well, I wouldn’t have listened. I respect my parents feelings but Inwas ready to commit my life to this man. IMO - either wait until you do STDs or call your close family members. It won’t be “I’m engaged...bye.” They’ll likely ask questions about how he proposed and ask you about him so they can get to know him. It’s not weird and is better than a card. I think anyways. About you moving, my parents we’re extremely sensitive about me moving to a new country. Getting married and moving are both HUGE life decisions and they just may need time. I let them process it in their own way. They like to tease (in good nature) to process things and they asked a lot of questions. I was sensitive to the fact for the first time in 25 years, I wouldn’t be a car drive away from them. I answered all their questions and continued to reinforce how excited I was and how much love h and I had for each other. It took them a few days but they have been nothing but 100% supportive since and continue to be even though we’ve moved. Talk to them and be honest with your feelings.

Thats exactly how it is with me, except they kind of avoid it, they are quiet about everything

My parents were like that with me. We got engaged on a winter eurotrip and they immediately wanted me over for dinner when I returned to find out who was going to move and what the conversation was. H had met them twice and he had never met anyone else in my family; I had met his dad three times. H and I talked about it a lot and had a plan. I had dinner with my parents and they could see my mind was made up. They kinda backed off for a week or two. I think they needed to process. My entire immediate family lives within a 45 minute bubble and we’re all very close. My cousin moved straight out of high school and you would have thought my grandmas world was ending. They may just need time to process or figure out how they feel. Mine were worried I would never come home to visit, never consider moving back, they’d never see me again. And my dad doesn’t fly which complicates things. But they didn’t want to say too much because they didn’t want me to change my mind because of them. As soon as I asked my mom to come dress shopping with me and look at venues, she and my dad were immediately onboard and honestly, our relationship has gotten closer. One thing about moving is you will learn the value of authentic communication. You have to make a conscious effort to set aside time to talk to your family. Our conversations are so much more meaningful to me now. So I guess the moral of the story is, they may not be unsupportive, they may just not know how to feel. I would give them time and be open and honest with them but if their silence turns to disapproval or unsupportive, that’s when I would back off them. You’re an adult and if you want to get married and move, that’s yours and your FHs business and no one else’s.

Thank you, Ii really needed your advice right now, it is much appreciated!