Is it to early to ask someone to be a bridesmaid?

I'm getting married October 2021 to! To be honest a lot of people will say to wait just because a lot of bridesmaids back out or you have a unforeseen falling out. But I've already pretty much asked mine I just gave them a heads up but I haven't officially asked.

Generally I’d say wait, but it’s a sister or your fiancés sister who youre super unlikely to change your mind about wanting in your bridal party, I say ask. But I’d wait until youre within the year of your wedding before you ask any friends.

I think its not too early to ask family members!

Since she is family, and you will most likely be a part of each other's lives no matter what, it is totally fine to ask her now! For friends, I would wait a bit longer, as some friendships can change!

For family, I think you'll be fine asking earlier!

Since she is your fiance's sister, I think it is totally fine to ask her at Christmas. If you have friends you want to be in your wedding, I would wait because friends do change over time and you might not want the same now you do in 2021.

Typically people on Wedding Wire advise brides to wait until they are 8-12 months out to ask. I didn't do that, I texted my 9 bridesmaids the week after I got engaged (19 months out) then sent formal proposal boxes 14 months out. I was lucky and didn't experience any drama or anything with them. 8/9 had to fly in for the wedding so they had a lot more notice for planning time off & cost.

I think it's safe to ask now so she can prepare herself to get her traveling preparations in order.

I got engaged in May. I asked my MoH and BM the day I got engaged. My wedding isn't until June 2021. If you know who you want to ask, and you're reasonably confident they'll still be close to you in the next 2 years, I don't see any problem with asking already

I had asked my FH's Best Man's wife to be a part of our day... I don't know her very well but she has always been very kind to me and very supportive of both of us. She ended up being very bossy, controlling and overbearing in regards to the wedding plan and just ended up causing a lot of feelings of guilt for me.

Not saying your choice is wrong, absolutely ask your "must-haves" when you get the chance! I was very against asking unless it was in person but I did that anyway with one of my friends because I lost patience and we talked on the phone for an hour after!! Do whatever feels right for you!

I have a long engagement as well. I waited until after I booked the venue so I know what city and what date my wedding is going to be. You don't have to ask them in person. All of my bridesmaids are all over the country. I sent each of them a little proposal box

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Hey, thank you for the advise and what you said is probably what I do. I already changed my mind about one person already but it'd be hard not having her in the wedding, since she will be my sister-in-law at the end of the day. Thanks again!

View Quoted Comment That was actually a brilliant idea, waiting until you knew when and where!

Thank you all for the advice and opinions! I am figuring everything out as I go as i'm sure you all have. I have decided to ask her this Christmas because I never see her, she will be my sister-in-law at the end of the day, we were friends before my FH and I started dating officially and everything in between. Plus I want her to have time to get flights and is financially able to be in the wedding. Happy Thanksgiving to you all, congrats to those who are or just got married and happy wedding planning to those who also just go engaged

View Quoted Comment I had two bridesmaids drop out and one I kicked out. I still regret not having my one friend in my wedding especially because I'm supposed to be in his in June. I had picked people I thought I could trust, but they turned out to be backstabbers.

If you know who you want and there is no reason they would change I say ask whenever. I am getting married in November 2021 and I have asked my MOH and one Bridesmaid already. Especially for it being family, I don't see why not ask now.