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Rachel
Savvy June 2023

Is it time to change venues?

Rachel, on July 7, 2022 at 9:26 PM Posted in Planning 2 8
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Background: my fiancé and I met at a library so I have my heart set on getting married at the local library and doing a literary themed wedding (all other libraries within 50 miles of us do not host weddings… this is the only one).


When looking at the space I was told that the music hall where the ceremony would be is undergoing renovation in 2022/2023. I told her I will book the studio for the reception tentatively for June 10th 2023, but to please contact me towards the end of June about the ETA for construction on the music hall. I am open to moving my wedding to July, August or even September to accommodate for the music hall. She had not reached out to me in June and I left her a voicemail on Tuesday and she has not returned my call. I personally would love to get married in 2024 so I have more planning and I finish my doctorate program, but my family is insisting on a 2023 wedding. Anyway, how long should I wait for her to reply before looking into another venue? Just kinda at a standstill because I don’t even have an official date booked so I can’t plan anything else.

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Latest activity by Rachel, on July 13, 2022 at 5:01 PM
  • mrswinteriscoming
    Rockstar December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    Venue aside, if you want to get married in 2024, you should be getting married in 2024.

    It is not your parents, siblings or other family members getting married - this is your marriage and your wedding so you need to pick a date that suits you (and your fiance) and if 2024 is when your heart is set on, your venue will undoubtedly be finished renovations by then and your ducks would be in a row.

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  • Rachel
    Savvy June 2023
    Rachel ·
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    Ideally yes it is my choice, but there are some health factors in the family that has us looking into 2023 which is why my family is set on 2023.
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  • FiannaNotFiona
    Savvy October 2023
    FiannaNotFiona ·
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    Is it possible she hasn't returned your call because she's out on vacation this week? It was the 4th so I know a lot of people tend to take this week off.

    I wouldn't jump to picking a different venue just yet, that seems a little drastic. I would wait until next week and if you still don't hear back, you can follow up again.

    Also, is there a reason your family is insisting on a 2023 wedding and does it matter? Are they paying for the wedding? My thoughts are that if 2024 makes more sense for you and your timeline then you should go for 2024 to ease your anxieties and give you more time to plan and focus on your studies.

    edit* just saw your response above as I posted. While I understand the health issues causing anxiety for your family, you still need to remember that this is your wedding. If those family members are truly that important to you to see you married, you could consider a private ceremony with them this year, and plan for the full ceremony/reception in 2024 once your venue is finished.

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  • Rachel
    Savvy June 2023
    Rachel ·
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    Thank you to everyone who has replied. I will wait for her and just hope she gets back to me.
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  • Janai
    Just Said Yes May 2023
    Janai ·
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    Hey Rachel!

    I would recommend waiting 5 days/about a week then calling again. If you have an email address for her, try her there as well. Many people do vacation in July and if that's the case, you may receive an auto message stating that she is away and will return by x date or even a contact to reach out to while she is away!

    Also, given that she may not be used to handling events as frequently, it's totally possible that she may be having a bit of trouble/stress with the juggling that comes with an event on top of the construction within their space. I'm sure she will get back to you but she may need a reminder here and there.

    I work in construction and one of the key points of my job is to touch base with subcontractors every few days that bids, documents, contracts, etc. are due. I definitely do NOT advocate for "bridezilla" behavior in any way but there are some people who need more reaches to keep on task in a timely manner. There's a fine line, but I think giving her about 5 biz days to respond then reaching out again to check in if you haven't received any kind of response is totally ok! It will keep you on her radar and if you're nice and understanding, she will not feel like you're "hounding" her.

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  • Laura
    Rockstar September 2022
    Laura ·
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    First of all if you want to get married at a later date... do it. This is your wedding it should be the best time for you. Second of you have your heart set on a library wedding try to go for it. If for some reason you can't get a hold of them you can choose a venue and have it book themed. That way you get your love of books and a hint of how you two met. Maybe do an anniversary renewal in a library if you're place doesn't get back to you.
    https://www.weddingomania.com/book-themed-wedding-ideas/

    This site has a lot of great ideas. Keep us posted and congrats!!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Give them 3-4 business days before you call again. Another option if you are local is to go in person to speak with them. If they are still non responsive after 4 business days, consider a different venue. Or get creative with a blank slate venue and decorate with books on bookshelves.
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  • Rachel
    Savvy June 2023
    Rachel ·
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    Just an update the library never called me back even though I left a voicemail last week. I called today she did not pick up, but then called immediately after on my grandmother’s phone and she answered right away. The construction process has not started and they do not have any clue schedule wise what the next couple years will look like so 2023 and most likely 2024 are no longer feasible. I will be touring another venue tomorrow that is right next to a city library so fingers crossed this venue works out for us!
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