Is it tacky to text meal options?

How are you getting RSVPs for the wedding? I would just include a way for them to select their meal option at the same time that they RSVP.

How many people are going? And yes, how are you getting RSVP's?

It's a destination wedding so we didn't formally have rsvps. The rsvp is when someone booked a room. We'll have about 50 people in attendance

Honestly I still think your best bet all around is to send out a quick invitation and have everyone formally reply and input their meal selection in a website. I feel like the invite is important for telling people exactly what time the wedding is and where they need to be and when, and allows you to get specific data on who will be in each room (Ex: sure the Doe family may have booked a room but as far as guest count goes there’s a big difference if only Mrs Doe is coming or if she’s coming with her 2 kids and husband).


Also most importantly some people might be waiting for the invite as their confirmation things are moving forward as planned. Frankly with all the covid stuff in flux if I didn’t get an invite update I might assume you were postponing again. I always book hotels right away as long as they are refundable, so I can lock in the rate and not worry about consequences since I can cancel if plans changed down the road — So my booking a room may not be final confirmation that I’ll be there. So I think some sort of touching base with a formal invite for a formal rsvp with meal selection is important.
I’m definitely usually team Paper Invites for aWedding , but I think in this case some sort of evite would work okay— gives people the updated final details of time etc and allows people to give a formal rsvp with meal choice.

View Quoted Comment I wouldn't use the room bookings as a formal RSVP. Like a previous comment said, if Jane Smith booked a room, you don't know if she and John Smith are both attending, or if it's just Jane. Other people may have booked rooms outside the room block (such as, if they have family in the area and are staying with them, or they have rewards points through a different hotel, etc). Even for a destination wedding, an actual invitation should be sent, and along with it, provide a way for them to send you their meal choices. The invitation doesn't have to be super fancy: you could just send an evite or a paper invitation (listing the date/time/address), and have everyone RSVP on The Knot or Wedding Wire or something.

Thank you. The travel agent has a very detailed list of who is coming and who is staying per room, dates, flights, etc so I know exactly who is coming... and my guest list is small enough that I talked to everyone about it within the past 3 months (which was the final booking date).
But you both have a good point, with COVID and everything it will be good to send something to let everyone know it's still happening especially since they didn't get a formal invite. I'll do a quick rsvp site and just send it to everyone. That way they have something concrete. Thanks!

I would use a site like Greenvelope. That way you can track online and have everything in one place - it's less expensive, immediate, and easy.