Is it rude to take away a plus one?

Nope! You’re paying, you get to say who you will be feeding.

If you’ve already given them a guest I think it would be rude to take that away since they could’ve already made plans. Can you reach out to them and ask them if they were planning on bringing anyone?

Yes, it's rude to take it away. A plus one isn't for someone in a relationship and you can't dictate who they use it for.

If you already offered a plus one I think it's rude to take it away.

You should have just addressed the STD to the guest and then if they got in a relationship by the time of the invites, invite their new bf/gf by name. But that ship has sailed.

Yes, it would be rude.

I believe this would be rude to take away a plus one.

View Quoted Comment Maybe to some extent, but they have already had that say, and they said these people could bring guests. Once they’ve said that they can’t very well say “oh jk not THAT guest” without it being rude.

Yeah, if you said and guest, I wouldn't take it away now. You can reach out and ask if they are planning on bringing someone. One of our guests who got a plus one decided not to bring anyone so that may happen.

At any rate , they might not take anyone. I think it’s rare for people to want to bring random friends along to weddings. Our (single, traveling) friend responded to her plus one like “yeah right, who am I gonna bring ?” and needed our encouragement before she even considered bringing a just-a-friend to be a travel companion.

NO it’s not rude, we had to do that as well. Things change. There was a break up between two people plus we went over our count to begin with. People will understand. Some people we wanted to invite, we couldn’t and we feel awful but it is what it is and it gets quite expensive!!!

Nope not rude at all. We're only doing plus ones for the spouses of our guests that we know personally. there is no reason for a complete stranger to be paid for and entertained during the biggest day of your life.

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Then don't invite a plus one in the first place? If you feel that way, that's fine, but you can't welcome your friend to bring a guest and then tell them you were just kidding.

I think it's rude to take it away since you've already extended the offer.

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I agree with Caytlyn. We only include "and guest" to the wedding party. Every other guest with an SO was invited by both their names, so we didn't get random people. I think giving someone a plus one, then taking it away after you learn it's not who you wanted, is super rude.

I invited all significant others by name, and gave plus ones to single people traveling alone. These 2 particular people I’m torn about just because one has been abusing “prescribed” medications more and more and likes bringing his friends around to do whatever they do together. The other one would likely not bring anyone anyways, so I’ll probably still extend the plus one.

I gave a plus ones to all my single friends and only 2 of them brought someone to enjoy the night with. You didn't have to add the plus one to the STD, but since you did I would still offer it to them. They probably won't use it.

I'm doing a destination wedding and everyone was offered a plus one. My MOH wasnt sure who she would be dating and so she RSVP'd for a plus one and figured that whomever she brought would need to foot the bill for the last minute travel. She recently decided to bring a girlfriend but didnt seem to understand that you cant just add someone to your room for free. The rate includes all of the food, drink, activities, etc. The price had gone up and the travel agent plead with her contacts to get the rate down but needed an answer by the next day. I guess the friend wasnt ready to commit yet. I assume they figured ot would just be her flight. I want my MOH to have a great time but she doesnt think anyone can commit until about 3 weeks prior OR she doesnt want to pick someone until then. We are a little over 2 months away. I have to give final counts now along with the other plans so I suggested she just come alone. The best man and some others will be alone. Selfishly, I would like to spend time with her those few days because I never see her and I know that FH and I will be entertaining our guests. If she asks to add someone at the last minute (a real possibility), do I try to make it work or tell her it's too late. I already ordered the place card for her friend. It will be annoying to have to hand write one of them if she invites a date. The more complicated part is that I have 2 tables of guests and a sweetheart table. If one extra person comes, I'll have to get a 3rd table and spread everyone out, additional centerpiece, etc. I want her to have a blast but I also need to finalize my arrangements.