Is it rude to send Save the Dates to oot guests only?

That's what I did. Only sent to OOT guests who have to make travel arrangements.

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Ok, I am thinking what if people get mad that they didn't get one thinking they weren't invited if they found out someone got one haha.

It's not rude and it's actually really smart. Plenty of stories on here of people who sent out save the dates to everyone they thought they wanted to invite. Then, planning progresses and budgets change, and they wish they could amend (shrink) their guest list. But they are locked into their original list because of those save the dates.

No, I think that's totally fine! You can just plan on sending them to out-of-town guests or anyone you know will want to save your photo. I might also send them to your bridal party because I kept getting questions from a couple of my bridesmaids asking me to remind them when my date was (pre-STDs).

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That's on them. But if you are definitely planning on inviting them and they mention something to you, you can just say they will be receiving an invitation closer to the date.

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If anyone local asked, I just tell them I only sent the STDs to OOT guest since they have to make travel arrangements. Everyone local will just get an invitation. If anyone asks me when the wedding is, I just tell them the month (if I know they will be invited, I tell them the exact date).

No, not at all.

My only worry would be if in town guest know they are invited. I am a planner and Save the Dates are super important to me. I get them and put them on my calendar, so I don't plan anything else that weekend. How do in town guest know if they are invited or not? What happens if someone things they are invited, puts the date on their calendar, and then aren't invited? What happens if someone doesn't think they are invited, and make other plans that weekend?

I think that is totally fine! If anyone local would get mad, just say "But I wanted to let you know in person!!"

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Good idea. I think just OOT, parents, and wedding party (our siblings are in it anyhow lol)

Thanks all. I was going to do cute magnets but they're so expensive lol.

We are sending out all our save the dates at once for three reasons:
1) more convenient for us
2) our wedding is the day after Thanksgiving in 2020 and everyone will need to make their plans for next Thanksgiving
3) 90% of our guests are from out of town

We are just sending them to OOT family. I am still unsure about who to invite from work. So I get some more time to figure it out. Really close friends already know the date.

I don't see anything rude about that! Your reasoning makes sense

Vista print is having a half off sale right now! For 100 save the date postcards , it’s only $10! (:

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I saw that so I jumped on it. I actually caved in with the magnets which is a bit pricier but still a much better price than other sites! I love STD magnets lol, I still have the ones from previous weddings of family and friends haha.

I’m planning on only sending them to OOT guest !!

I don't think it's rude at all. My FH and I sent/handed them to all of our guests b/c we got a good deal on our save the dates and still have some left over. It's really a personal choice.